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Help! 1 yr old being difficult

After trying to put my baby to sleep with her screaming/kicking for an hour straight, finally got her down, I was so sad/mad bc this was the only time i got with my bf before he went to sleep he works super long days and i never see him and i was excited to watch tv with him and he went to sleep already and im just here crying bc im emotionally drained :( i hate feeling anger and frustration towards my baby girl :(

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I’ll be praying for you! It’s tough but you got this!!!

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Awww I’m sorry momma, I promise you it gets better. I would feel the same with my LO and it would take him FOREVER to go down. Now he has his bedtime routine down and it’s no fight at all, and I got my nights back. It will happen, just keep at it. Find a routine and stick with it and she will get it. This too will pass 😘

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Ohhh it happens to all of us sometimes sending hugs xxx

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Omg girl ur not the only one feeling down because of your child. I literally cried today because my 5 yr old boy wasn’t being obedient & low key gets in between my relationship , we rarely have intimacy because he sleeps in our bed sadly . & I just pray Over the matter. Regardless of the negative situation there’s other people in the world struggling with their children’s Health issues & that just puts me at ease . God bless you hunny he sent you an angel to shape you !

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thank you ladies 🥺💞

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This happens to me so often I completely understand! The best advice my friend gave me, is to put the baby in their cot and just leave the room for five minutes to calm yourself down. It will not hurt them to cry for a couple of minutes so that you can compose yourself xx

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Look up takingcarababies on IG. She has wonderful sleep tips. She has an online class as well

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I feel you love ! Your doing a great job !

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I feel like we have all been there! Wash your face and know it’s gonna be ok

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Sending you virtual hugs mommy. ❤️ we’ve all been there and understand how overwhelming it can be!

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Set a good sleeping schedule for her, it was hard at first with my 2 year old but it definitely helps a lot! You’ll enjoy putting her to sleep and then you have time for you and your partner💕

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Hey mama! You’re doing a great job with your baby. We all go through this, and it’s ok for you to feel frustration.
My son was like that, especially since he was breastfed for a long time. A few weeks ago I created my own sleep training process that works for all of us. Now when we put him to bed, he cries 2 minutes or less, then falls asleep. Most importantly, he doesn’t climb out of his crib anymore.
My spouse and I get to spend our evenings together.

Just start thinking about creating your own bedtime routine or sleep training process, and I promise you within a few weeks things will be better.

You got this girl!!

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I have been there, however now he goes down no problem. One thing I found helped was a routine, I also have my 14 month old in a light weight sleep blanket suit and that also helps as a sleep trigger. Another thing I do is after we read, i spend like five minutes cuddling and talking about the day, then I tell him when I’m going to put him down in the crib and put him in there with the over head light on, and I spend a few minutes cleaning the room and then I get the night light jukebox projector thing running, turn out the overhead light, say good night and walk out. Couple of things- we share a room still, but we don’t go in the bedroom till much later, and there is a pacifier involved in all this. Lol. I hope this helps. Message me if you have any questions.

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You are a brave and strong woman and we are all here for you!

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Omg this was me the other day I thought I was the only one my baby who’s 10months threw one of her biggest tantrums going to the potty and I felt like a shitty parent and started to over think and feel guilty for working 6days out the week 😭

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you ladies are all so kind 🥺 it does get tough but we all get through it, thank you all for your kind words and advice!❤️

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Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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