Baby name stealer...

I haven’t had this happen first hand since I always keep my names secret but this did happen to my sister. We had a cousin still both her daughters names and mix them up like we wouldn’t figure it out

Unless it is a really unique name then I'm afraid they're all fair game, as annoying as it is. Chances are one of you might decide that's not the name for your little one when she arrives anyway, and even if you both keep it it won't be any different for the girls than you knowing another Justine, don't worry about it. Although very curious to know what it is now 😂😂

I have never had it happen, but I refuse to tell anyone names we have had picked. We have a girl name picked yet, even though we are having a boy. We haven’t even told anyone the name of our soon to be baby boy.
We are not telling anyone the girls name even though we are not intending on anymore children, if it happens I want to use the name we picked!

I always said if I had a boy I’d name him Roman but I never told anyone the name. My best friend became pregnant with a boy before me and she named her son Roman. I couldn’t believe we had both come up with that name considering it’s a very uncommon name. I’m pregnant now and unsure of gender quite yet but if it’s a boy I feel like it would be weird to name him Roman too so I get why you’d feel weird too. If the name has special meaning to you then I say use it anyway!

I would be so pissed.

Because this isn’t a direct family member I wouldn’t care. This is your name so own it and keep it. A close friend from work had a baby a couple of months after me and revealed that she was going to call her daughter Felicity but once she found out that’s what I called my daughter she changed the name. I’ve wanted and loved Felicity since I was 8 years old. If she had her daughter first and called her Felicity I would have still called mine Felicity. It’s your immediate family and you need to be happy and love her name. Don’t worry about what other people call their child. It shouldn’t bother you. It’s a lovely name but just focus on your family rather than investing time being mad at something that really doesn’t matter 🤷🏽‍♀️

We are naming our baby Elena if it’s a girl and my close coworker just had a girl and without either of us mentioning it to each other him and his wife named their baby girl Alana. It happens. She may have just fallen in love with the name when she heard it or had already been thinking about it.

I feel like you could definitely still use your baby name tho it’s not too close of a family member, my best friends sister in law was pregnant and asked her what she would name her daughter and then stole the name!!! So literally her niece has her baby girl name, in that case I feel like it’s kind of off the table... but I do have a brother and a cousin both named frank and it was never weird to us growing up lol

I'd use the name anyways or make it the middle name .. in my family we have 3 rubens 🤦🏾‍♀️🤣🤷🏽‍♀️

I would still use the name. I think it would be one thing if it was a sister or a cousin of yours, but since it’s an in-laws sister.. I wouldn’t give a crap. You love the name and you’ve had it picked out forever! Use it and name your baby girl whatever you want. If someone gets mad, tell them to kiss your butt. 😉

This has recently happened to me!! I am still fuming, although we no longer talk it still irrates me very much and if I do ever come across her I will address her about it. I don’t get why people can’t pick their own names!!!

Not even remotely the same thing but my niece has a dad, an uncle, 2 grandads and a great grandad called James from both sides of her family 😂 she calls them Dad, uncle jimmy, grandad Jimmy, grandad Jim and grandad Fraser haha she has no idea they all have the same name

I had a friend do this to me. I picked out rhett it had a LOT of meaning to my husband and i. She heard it and changed her sons name from river to rhett and i was really hurt because i HATE sharing baby names and she knew id change ours

This is not cool. Its not the done thing to steal a name! If it means alot to you, like it sounds it does, I would go ahead and use it anyway. You have the justification as it's a family name. I'm not mentioning our short list to anyone just incase!!

An in laws, family members sister?? I'd still use it, I mean that's pretty distant 😂 if it was your sister or your sister in law etc..then I'd get it but that far down the tree I wouldn't even think twice, just stick to your plan x

I haven’t told a soul for this reason !!

I understand your frustration even though my situation is a little different. I had a name picked out since I was 8 that I LOVE. And I just happened to marry someone whose niece already has the exact name (first and middle) and he refuses to have his daughter and niece with the same name...so even though I have had mine picked out for 20 years, I had to give it up. I kept the middle name and changed the first.
For you, since you picked it first and since neither of the children are born yet, I’d keep it.

If you love the name and you have your heart set regardless of anyone else you should still use it ive had my names picked out from day dot for boy and a girl and family members told me / friends I shouldn't use it they are old fashion but you have to remember thats your baby at the end of the day and no one else opinion matters and if you do decide to use your name and anyone says anything make sure you tell them you've had that name picked for 5 years and leave it at that 🙂

My sister in law who has given zero impression she even wants a baby of her own at this point in life with her current longtime bf has called dibbs on the name Penelope. Both my husband and I were considering that name thinking our second baby may be a girl ( it wasn’t - it was another boy 😅), but knowing how strongly she felt about that name there is no way I could have went through naming my child that. It’s just a respect thing I feel. I have these 2 names for if/when I ever have a baby girl and I’m not sharing with no one! Lol 🤐

Use the name you want! You’re not going to be worried about this other person’s child in 10 years.

My sister and our cousin almost had identical names. My uncle realized my dad was going to name my sister the same as my older cousin and he brought the name up to my dad. Now their middle names are different

I would be so annoyed but I would still name my baby it. X

That's shitty.

I would use the name still. No one owns a name💜 the name will still be special to you.