Is it rude to plan/throw my own baby shower?

I’m 23wks (I know I still have a lot to go), but I don’t really have anyone besides my husband. I’m an only child, I don’t really have “close friends” and I’m not that close with my mother anymore. I have in-laws but although they’re supportive of my veganism, they don’t seem that “excited” to throw me an ethical party I feel comfortable with. Should I just do it all myself?

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I planned my own it was awesome! It will definitely give you something to look forward to and no one knows what you like more than you🙂

I planned my own! Do it and don’t be afraid to ask a friend for help. I ended up asking a newer friend to help and we are tight now (:

I planned my own and didn’t get much help as I thought I would. It kinda made me feel sad thinking maybe no one wasn’t excited for me bc one offered to help... but it turned out perfectly! It’s ok to plan your own

Plan your own!

I did my own, that way everything is as you want it and i was so happy with the outcome! It makes you feel more involved with your baby and makes it more real once you do actually find out the gender as you’ve made all the effort to find out🥰xxx

I did everything from decorations down to the cake and food provided on the day xxxx

Why would that be rude? Lol I planned my own too

I planned my own for the most part but asked for help with tasks from people I knew wanted to be a part of planning it. I found it helped them feel involved with the baby and I still got to pick what I wanted.

I was intending on planning my own as I don't have any sisters/close friends but recently found out my MIL sister is taking charge (MIL hates me lol) I was hoping to still do it my way and would have insisted if it was someone else - bit gutted but appreciate the sentiment all the same..

I planned my own and ill do so again with my second...didn't know people even threw them for others tbh

Not at all. Plan it yourself so you get everything you want

I planned my own 😬

Nope I planned both of mine and probably will with my next one

I didnt have one due to covid i know people have them regardless but i couldnt have it how i wanted so didnt bother. But if i did have one i would of planned it and not let anyone else but im abit a perfectionist and wouldn’t of wanfed anyone else to. Not rude at all its yours, your partners and your babys day make it in your own vision x

I never even got a baby shower haha not for any of my kids i had no friends and most family had disowned me

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