Any else have tokophobia (fear of pregnancy)?

what exactly do you feel afraid of?

i understand everything you saying. and it’s okay, every woman feels the same exact way because you can’t prevent or make anything happen , but you have to have the mind frame that god has the last say so , pls don’t worry yourself because stress is never good fir the baby. keep talking & venting to your mommies you going to look up and it’ll be time for labor. your going to be ok mommy ❤️

I think the best thing you could do would be to educate yourself on a lot of birthing books and see others experiences. Once you have a knowledge of what to expect, you might feel a bit better and more in control of the situation. (Not that you can always control what happens, but at least you'll be familiar) I'm planning to do a home birth and even though it seems better to me than a hospital birth (done that twice) it still kinda scares me. Sooo from what I've gathered from other moms who've been through it, they really read up and prepared for the experience they wanted. You don't know what you don't know. So then your kinda left in the dark, at the hands of others. Now that's a scary thing, right? So idk I hope that can help you 😊

I wouldn’t say I’m afraid of pregnancy, but I’m certainly not looking forward to it. The thought of birth is exciting to me, but in what other scenario do you want a parasite in your body?! But now I (and you) are in it, so we’ll have to figure out a way through it, and hopefully even enjoy it🤞🏽

I HIGHLY recommend the book Like A Mother: A Feminist Journey Through the Science and Culture of Pregnancy by Angela Garbes. It's amazing!!! I read it during my wife's pregnancy and am going to re-read it in the hopes it makes me feel super powerful. It's pretty extraordinary what our bodies can do and this book walks you through it.

Good luck, mom! ✨

Hiya, I have Tokophobia.
Mine has grown over 15 years when I was treated for abnormal cervical cells and my gynaecologist said “ooo your holes are really close together. You’ll probably rip quite badly when you have a child”.

So all through my 20/30s I’ve developed this fear of ripping and my anxiety around childbirth has turned into such a phobia that I can’t watch any childbirth programmes as makes me upset and anxious.

I am 21 weeks and before I fell pregnant I had 12 weeks of talking therapy around my fear. I still have the phobia but I have a note from the dr and therapist saying I suffer from this & agreed that a planned c-section would be the best solution for me to minimise my distress. I live in the UK so I am hoping they agree to this on the NHS and will be seeing a midwife who specialises in anxious mothers.

I think my personal advice would be to have a think what birthing option you feel you can bring the baby into the world that is right for you both.

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