In a relationship but basically doing on your own.

Husband returned to work this week after paternity leave and it’s right back to work come home sit and not help because him working and providing for us is enough… which I’m grateful for but I need help especially with four kids, but when I mention anything about it he gets mad and says he’ll quit because obviously it means nothing 🙄

We had some friends over last night, and I was talking to one of the other moms who also has 2 kids and whose husband works with mine, about how they are able to do bath night for their little ones every night -- because for us, that's just impossible. She told me that she and her spouse "divide and conquer" so that both kiddos get baths every single night.

Both our husbands are away traveling for work sometimes, so she handles bathing them herself when he's gone, but when hers comes home, there is a difference. They share parenting responsibilities.

My husband has rarely done that. Not for me / our relationship, and not for the sake of our kids. There have been moments where he's stepped up because of my job, but it feels like most else of what he's done is minimal.

How did I wind up living like this? How do I decide when I'm done waiting for him to show up (I've tried asking, and I'm so tired of the disappointments)? How do I know if "staying together for the kids" isn't good for us overall (I don't like that this is their family model)?

I just can't stop thinking about what she said and wondering how our lives can look so similar and yet feel so different....

I've been married for almost 10 yrs, but we have been together for 14 years total. I feel depressed cause I'm lonely in my own marriage. He doesnt talk or even give me physical contact unless he wants sex. We have 3 kids our youngest is autistic. I feel like I dont have the support to even get help with our autistic son. Since hes level 3 he needs alot of attention and support that I seem to not get help with. I do it all cook clean take care of all 3 kids alone. All he does is work and when hes home hes on his phone all the time. I've caught him dozens of time talking to girls behind my back. I feel like I'm over it. Do i say and keep being unhappy or do I leave and choose myself for my mental health and happiness?

Me and my partner have a LG, 9 months old. In the beginning, he was amazing with her, would help with nighttime settling after I’d fed her (she was EBF) would wake up early with her or take her for a couple hours so I could catch up on sleep. He’d get me snacks, fill my bottle, let me take some time to myself.

Now however, I asked him to get me a snack, drink, whatever, he agrees, but says and acts as if I’m asking the world of him. He does have a job, however it’s a 0 hours contract so sometimes he works full time, sometimes it’s part time, sometimes he doesn’t work at all, but it’s in a school so he gets holidays and weekend off, only works 8-3.

I do every bed time, every feed, I cook/ make all of our little girls meals and feed them to her, or prep them for fridge/ freezer storage, I do all of the washing, 95% of the nappies and 95% of all other house hold jobs, the only one I don’t do is take the bins out as I struggle doing this.

Each week he goes to football 1-2 times a week for atleast 3 hours on the weekend and occasionally 2 hours in the week. He also does a Games night every Friday where he plays online from 7 usually till around 12. So he gets lots of him time. Whereas I get 1 bath or shower a week, and that’s all the alone time I really get, unless I’m cleaning (working) but I personally don’t class that as me time as I’m not doing something I enjoy and I’m not chilling out.

We have had the same bedtime routine from day 1 with LG however he still doesn’t know what to do or anything. So I had a little bit of a go as it had been a hard week with our LG and I finally snapped. He says I’m being harsh, that is was uncalled for and doesn’t see how I can be rundown and stressed because I’m constantly at home “doing nothing”. My question is, was it unfair for me to snap at him? Am I asking too much? I really don’t think I am but just wondered what others thought x

I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has still not told his family or even anyone in that case that we’re having a baby ! I’ve pretty much had to keep it a secret for his own sake…. We live long distance and I’m having to do this pregnancy all on my own with my families support buts it’s exhausting and draining 😭😭