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In a relationship but basically doing on your own.

Rant/Wanting opinions

Me and my partner have a LG, 9 months old. In the beginning, he was amazing with her, would help with nighttime settling after I’d fed her (she was EBF) would wake up early with her or take her for a couple hours so I could catch up on sleep. He’d get me snacks, fill my bottle, let me take some time to myself.

Now however, I asked him to get me a snack, drink, whatever, he agrees, but says and acts as if I’m asking the world of him. He does have a job, however it’s a 0 hours contract so sometimes he works full time, sometimes it’s part time, sometimes he doesn’t work at all, but it’s in a school so he gets holidays and weekend off, only works 8-3.

I do every bed time, every feed, I cook/ make all of our little girls meals and feed them to her, or prep them for fridge/ freezer storage, I do all of the washing, 95% of the nappies and 95% of all other house hold jobs, the only one I don’t do is take the bins out as I struggle doing this.

Each week he goes to football 1-2 times a week for atleast 3 hours on the weekend and occasionally 2 hours in the week. He also does a Games night every Friday where he plays online from 7 usually till around 12. So he gets lots of him time. Whereas I get 1 bath or shower a week, and that’s all the alone time I really get, unless I’m cleaning (working) but I personally don’t class that as me time as I’m not doing something I enjoy and I’m not chilling out.

We have had the same bedtime routine from day 1 with LG however he still doesn’t know what to do or anything. So I had a little bit of a go as it had been a hard week with our LG and I finally snapped. He says I’m being harsh, that is was uncalled for and doesn’t see how I can be rundown and stressed because I’m constantly at home “doing nothing”. My question is, was it unfair for me to snap at him? Am I asking too much? I really don’t think I am but just wondered what others thought x