Sex after baby’s birth.

I was so nervous about this. All I ca say is the first time it goes in, if you ripped or had stitches, that first time going feels super uncomfortable but once you get past that it starts to feel better. 🤣 I ripped with both my kids, wasn't pleasant the first few times. Partner said I wasn't loose though, that part is all in out heads 😂😘

I waited the full six weeks because I wanted to be on birth control. Just go slow! TMI: it actually feels better for me postpartum

I had the calendar circled for exactly 6 weeks after birth😂
Man oh man the feeling was better than before baby! Everything was intensified down there!
Just tell him to take it slow at first until your comfortable. It doesn't become loose either. I thought that would happen as well but my husband said it got tighter🤷‍♀️
Have a good day and good luck😉

I can't remember how long they tell you too wait? But I know I didn't wait as long as i probably should have, you will know when your ready,
It is a scary thought too begin with, just take it slow and go from their, you will then see what your comfortable with everyone is different I suppose, but I'm sure you will be fine, good luck and enjoy ❤

Have the lube ready, especially if you're breastfeeding. Some women are dry due to breastfeeding, which is normal.

It took me almost 10 mos pp to want to have sex. Give yourself time love. 💜

Just take your time, relax and use plenty of lube. I was scared the first time after my son was born too but my husband was just so happy for us to be intimate it was really lovely and nothing to worry about. The first time might feel different for both of you but by the 2nd it was exactly the same as ever for me and my husband says it is for him too.

I was terrified! Had really bad tear and stitching! Took us around 10 months for me to feel comfortable. Fiancée was very supportive lol had no other choice😂😂🤣 plenty of foreplay so you’re really in the mood and just relax with it, i reckon it feels better

Honestly.. unpopular opinion but I waited until 5 months pp before I had sex again 👀 not that I didn’t want it! Infact my sex drive now is way higher than it was before I got pregnant (and it was high then 😅)
I just wanted to make sure I was fully healed, I had a dislocated coccyx and stitches and all sorts.
I am the same as others, partner has said there is no change in muscle activity.. and if you are breastfeeding, lots of lube! I am so dry it’s unreal 😩😂 x

Hi, I had natural birth also, everything was fine, no stitches etc, I was having sex soon after, I think down to the individual and how you feel because some women don't feel good about themselves and how they look after birth but if you and your partner are ready and both happy, I would say go for it, it's natural and also time for you and hubby to bond and share intimacy together after day is done and changed loads dirty nappies etc, just chill back, snuggle with hubby and let the mood flow. I know sometimes hard, you don't need to push yourself, don't have have sex all time, could even cuddles and do other intimate things to share and show affection. 🙂

I was so scared too! My best advice is to wait the 6 weeks and get the okay. And if so definitely take it slow, build the tension first, and use lubricant! ❤ My baby (#1) was 8.9LBS + 21.5 inches long! 🎀 I had her naturally!

I had c section with my youngest my partner waited 3 months to get anything of me .. and my 1st i was in hospital for 4 days i lost 4 pints of blood and tore very badly i had to wait 6 weeks to heal then after that we broke up so didn't have sex for months haha

6 weeks after birth I was ready just to get it out the way I felt like the anticipation and fear just made the whole idea really scary. We planned an at home date night and had a couple of drinks to ease the nerves (wasnt breastfeeding).
Honestly there was nothing to fear sex was great and my fiance even made a joke about the nurse adding an extra stich because it definitely didn't feel any 'looser'.
Your man loves you, don't panic, have some Dutch courage, plenty of lube to ease the fear and enjoy!!

Maybe start with some foreplay to see how it feels and if you feel comfortable and want it go 'all in' or have you tried using a toy yourself to see how it feels and if you feel ready? At the end of the day it's your body and sex is for both of you not just to please the other person so have a chat with your partner and see how they feel about it as well, make sure you communicate with each other to ensure ease and feeling ready ❤

Following this post cause I gave birth in February and we still haven't done anything, I had a few stitches so that makes me even more scared to start back up..sex feels so foreign but I miss it but knowing sex is about reproduction a part of me feels "why would we need sex? We have a child, jobs done"..idk if anyone else feels like that or I'm just weird..

I waited 5 months pp and got pregnant again! Just be careful and use condons I was also on bc. :/ but it’s definitely a mind thing! Don’t think about it! If it didn’t hurt at yoir 6 week apt. You’re good!

Following post. Not done it yet (will be 2 months pp tomorrow) but I want to. I'm just scared to as I'm still a little sensitive down there x

Mine was after my 6-8 week postnatal check up after both pregnancies. Had episiotomy with both. After my first baby it was a little sore but felt ok after my second baby. Doesn’t feel any looser really and my partner agreed and that’s after 2 decent sized babies!! Just keep up with pelvic floor exercises, I do mine everyday and it’s definitely helped x

I see a lot of comments about pelvic floor exercises but my gyno didnt tell me to do anything like that..I'm like 3.5 months postp is it too late for me to try it to help?

I felt terrified that it would hurt because I had stitches we waited 3 months and it was fine. On 2nd I had no stitches and tried after 2 months and I felt tighter than prebaby. Don't worry if you feel you want to do it go for it and try not to think about your worries. I'm certain it will be great sometimes better than before because ye have waited so long 😁

The general guideline is 6 weeks. Before the 6 weeks, your uterus is still open and you risk infection. If you have a 6 week check up, they will make sure your uterus has closed and everything is healed.

Hi momma. I had the same thought! I was terrified and I wasnt even in the mood, I just didnt want anything to be moved down there. But when it came down to it I was really excited to do it! I was mentally prepared and was even eager to do it which made it easier.

We did it last night at 3 week pp. Didn't hurt, but i did bleed afterwards so going to give it some more time. Think 6 weeks is advised x

Omg girls love the enthusiasm on this!!!! I feel super nervous still but at the same time i just want to do it. But i think i will wait, i still need to get my birth control sorted and i didn’t wanted to use a condom to be honest i want the real deal lol. Thanks so much for all the responses xx i will keep everybody posted about this 😂

With each pregnancy I waited after my 6 to 8 week check up because I wanted to make sure I didn't end up pregnant so quickly after

Oh man I’m glad for this post I’ve been thinking about this. I’m 4 weeks pp and I’m so scared to have sex but I miss it and my man is so good but I know deep down he wants to even when he says he’s ok. Defo not ready yet but I’m hoping soon we can give it ago.

I started back when my baby was 2 months. Of course every time I had sex I had to be drunk and my baby was with my mom. But I had to be drunk to have sex. Because I did have to have stitches and the first time did hurt and was uncomfortable but over time it was better.

Heya so I was only 3 weeks after my baby I did have a natural birth and I also had a second degree tear so had to be stitches baby was 7.1lb so not to big ..... but I was super nervous about having sex but it just happened.... it was fine and it didn’t hurt at all .... plus husband said everything looked and felt the same I honestly enjoy sex more after my baby plus now I enjoy anal which I never ever did before having a baby ..... I’m currently pregnant again 28 weeks and my sex drive is so high ahah I think you know when you are ready and just try to enjoy it and if it is uncomfortable stop and try again later and maybe use some lube ♥️

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Took me about 18 months PP to even remotely consider being 50% in the mood!!

I waited until after my 6 week check up. We used condoms for the first couple weeks as I had to wait to get the iud placed. Those first few times were not great and even at 14 weeks pp we still have to take it a bit easy at times. Just remember to use lots of lube, go slow, and give it time.

Nearly 4 months pp and still haven't tried 😅 too scared

So I had a traumatic birth with 3rd degree tear plus episiotomy. I also have a prolapse which is not painful but husband thought it’d feel weird during sex. But surprisingly it didn’t hurt for me or weird for him! I had sex for the first time 5 months pp too. Don’t force yourself just go with the flow ☺️

I had my baby December 5th all natural. I didn’t have sex up until 1-2 months ago. I’ve only had it twice since having him, and he’s 6 months old lol

Honestly after 6 weeks its whenever you feel ready. I waited then and I couldn't wait any longer hehe... although it really hurt. Not long after it wasnt too bad and not long after that It didnt hurt at all. I had a c section after not going any further than 3cm so I didnt have any stitches or any damage down there on that front. The first after pregnancy felt like the first time all over again for me haha it was exciting but I was a bit nervous too. I joked about this with my other half afterwards too hehe.

I had my LG early feb and we have only done the deed once 😳😳 I just don’t feel sexy or want to at all! The one time we did my partner said it felt no different lol x

I didn't listen and had sex 4 weeks after. I. Love sex and its my 2nd baby. I had no stitches or anything and just wanted my husband. I'm still very tight that sometimes it still hurts. So yes your body goes right back to normal. No worries! But listen to your Dr. I never do anyways

There’s no such thing as being loose. If you’re worried about that, search up pelvic floor exercises/remedies to help your body heal. Some cultures do steam “baths”. It is also a time where you’re learning about so many things and not getting sleep so having sex might be the last thing on your mind. Just speak to your partner. If you are ready, make sure you’re physically up for it. Foreplay is important. Always listen to your body 🤍

I was very nervous and waited 3 months. It hurt, especially on the left side where I had the stitches after vaginal birth. That was a few weeks ago and I've only done it a couple times since then. It hurts even with a ton of water based lube and I just don't have any libido these days so it can be challenging to work up the desire. By the time I get the baby down and crawl into bed I just wanna sleep. 😴 Like others say, I think it's okay to set the pace with your partner and take it slow if you want to.

Whenever you feel ready and comfortable. Don’t worry about feeling “loose” or different because the vagina is an amazing thing. After all the stretching during childbirth IT IS able to return to near the same if not exactly the same as it was before.

Know if you are breastfeeding you’ll be extra dry down there, so lots of lubricant

I waited about 8 weeks before we tried for the first time. The first time was awful so we waited another month and then gave it a go, and it still sucked. At about 6 months it started to hurt less, and now at just over a year things are starting to feel better. Don’t put any pressure on yourself, it takes the body a while to get fully back to normal after the whole experience.