Don't absolutely love this new role

I'm gonna kick this group off with something that I just came to the realization of today. I love my son to death. Like I'd take a bullet for this precious little person. But I don't quite love this new mom role yet. My son is my first (and honestly, only) and I'm finding adjusting to mom life to be quite hard. I'm exhausted, my head hurts, I can barely sit as he prefers to be rocked while I stand, etc etc. And I know what I'm feeling isn't original, but I also don't always feel like pushing through the pain. I just want someone else to hold him so I can go take a bath for an hour and just feel like ME again. I'm sure it'll be different as he grows (he's currently 6.5 wks), but for now I'm just completely burnt out and straight up not having a good time. End of rant 😅

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I need a new husband lol

My husband rarely makes breakfast for me. And I was hoping this bank holiday weekend as he's off he would make the effort but when I asked him just now when he would make breakfast for me he said when he has the energy. He is always tired as he suffers from insomnia but ever since our son was born 7 months ago he has energy for our son. I feel very hurt by this statement as I've interpreted it as I am not important enough. I'm now getting up and go make breakfast for us as we get ready for the day

Heatwave hell 😭

I am really struggling in this heat. I’m melting. My 6 week old won’t sleep off me, won’t sleep on me, will fall asleep in a carrier but then I’m sweating and he’s uncomfortably hot. My toddler is misbehaving and is rejecting me. He is struggling without my attention. My littlest wants no one but me. The house is a shit hole cos nothing is getting done with the mayhem going on. I am not having a good time. Anyone else’s April baby struggling??

Oh we’ve also got illness galore. I have nipple thrush, bubs has oral thrush, I have a cold and I think my first period has arrived despite breastfeeding (didn’t with my first). My eldest has ringworm, a cold and cough, skin infection in his nose and conjunctivitis. He’s been back to back unwell for the last 5-6 weeks. Honestly it’s been never ending

Heatwave activities

My baby is almost 4 months old, and I naively thought I could take him out early in the morning for a quick stroll, but it was already 27° at 9 am. We played in the sink for a bit and then the usual tummy time, books, gym, and looking outside. I have a small patio that is shaded, but it feels too hot. I took him out for an early walk yesterday at around 9 am, and he was quite warm in the pram.
My husband will be back to work tomorrow.

What are people doing to keep babies entertained?

Solids

My 8 month old struggles to eat solids if it is not purified. He coughs a lot if I give him soft foods like egg. Anyone else struggling with this?

Upset

My husband has a different culture than me. In their culture they play match maker for their close friends and family. Today my husband talked to some girl at the store, got her number, and started trying to talk to her for his brother. I told him how disrespectful it is to me that he's being friendly with girls enough to get their numbers before he even told her it was for his brother. He doesn't think it's disrespectful and that it's not a big deal. I told his brother to find his own women. And now im the bad guy.

SAHM being impossible

Does anyone else get upset/fed up with the narrative that anyone can be a SAHM, if you just cut a few luxuries? I literally don't know anyone in real life that could afford to be a SAHM, but on this app, it seems like everyone thinks it's a possibility?

For context, we have a mortgage on a one bedroom house which is about 650 square foot. We live an hour away from work, as living closer to work is not affordable. We own two cars (needed for work) one being 16 years old and the other being 13 years old. We own them outright and petrol is cheap. We never eat out, haven't been on holiday for about 5 years. Everything is budgeted.

We live paycheck to paycheck. I just get so upset when I see others say that being a SAHM isn't a luxury, but a possibility for everyone. It's really not. I would love to be a SAHM, but if I don't work, we don't eat. And it's not just me, this is the reality for everyone I know.

Is anyone else on this app in the same position?