People commenting on your bump

I understand where your coming from. I'm 7 months now and I barely started to show. But around 5-6 months I wasn't showing they would say. Are you even pregnant or I'm small and don't look pregnant.

This is my belly at 18 weeks how much fricken bigger do ppl expect me to be 🤦🏽‍♀️ and the worst part is people base your pregnancy off your belly.

I was the opposite. I constantly had people telling me I looked huge. I even had an Aldi cashier ask when I was due when I was 7 months, and when I told her she went ‘omg you’ve still got two months and you’re huge!’ 😒
I agree, comments about someone’s appearance/size, pregnant or not, should be kept to themselves. X

With my first I didn't show until 35 weeks lol then suddenly I ballooned right out!!! It came out of nowhere.
I had people think I was lying about being pregnant and my gestation.

Honestly I did the same thing with my pregnant friends.... I never understood how much it could hurt anyone's feelings, I was trying to be encouraging becuz most pregnant women feel fat and unattractive... that was my thought anyways after being pregnant 3x I felt fat and unattractive so everyone must too. So I always tried to say the opposite of how I felt. Well, one day, my coworker came in, as she always did, and she is short and naturally small. I regretted speaking before I caught myself. I said "omg your HUGE are you sure you having just one?!" She was so upset with me she asked me to leave. It wasnt until then that I realized the only way to compliment a pregnant woman is to say shes glowing or shes so beautiful pregnant.
I share this to show you both sides. I was the one who felt insecure and I made her feel insecure. Sometimes we just dont know how our words hurt people. Perhaps talk with the family members and share how you feel. They may not know

I'm 5 months also and have same problem. I eat really well and can't understand how I'm carrying a small baby.

People just shouldn't comment. All I seem to do is just worry about the growth of the baby now.

I’m halfway and am completely
Surprise at the number of people (mainly complete strangers) feel the need to comment on the bump. Not only the insecurities about bump size this give off, but some peolple may not be pregnant and just carry a bit of weight, it’s so insensitive. X

People say it to me too I think they think they're paying you a compliment 🤦🏻‍♀️. Like saying you don't look fat, it's not the same thing when you're pregnant.

Can absolutely relate to this, I'm 35 weeks and finished work for mat leave this week and had patients who were surprised I was pregnant! The whole way through I've had people ask me if something's wrong or not believe me or say I just look fat and it's really got me down too. I feel cheated out of the pregnancy experience as well as I doubt I'll get much of a bump now - bought nice maternity dresses for my baby shower but look ridiculous in them as they're just baggy!!
I honestly think people don't realise they're being rude but the safest thing is to not comment on someone's bump at all! Sorry you're feeling this way though x

I hate the bump comments!! I have a friend who would say I was massive from about 14 to 20 weeks now she says your so small is everything OK!! It really annoys me. I must admit I use to say to my friend she looked so tiny last year when she was pregnant and I never realised how upsetting it is x

I'm sorry that you feel put down by people commenting on your bump.
Reading the comments, I think maybe I'm the odd one but it didn't bother me when people said I looked huge - because I did. My bump popped out early & it was very obvious.
(For context, I've struggled with losing weight my whole adult life, but the first time I didn't hate my body was when I was pregnant.)
But I can appreciate that others find those sorts of comments upsetting & to be mindful of that in the future.

I understand how you feel. I'm 35 weeks and people tell me all the time I'm tiny when I feel huge! Plus I'm having a hard time walking and being mobile overall due to sciatica issues, since 15weeks. So it does get annoying and honestly I hear it soo often, that I just smile and walk away.. the alternative is that I allow their ignorant comment to affect my mood. And I'm not doing that.... 🤷🏾‍♀️

Hopefully, you will be able to ignore them too momma. 💙🙏🏾

I exactly understand your feelings...dont worry just ignore what people have to say...don't take negativity this is the time to adore your cute baby bump..this time will not come back. Treat yourself and enjoy.

People used to comment on my bump all the time. It’s really bad social skills and unnecessary what so ever. There are many complements people can use to encourage a pregnant person. I am sorry they put you down. This is common and not ok. People used to tell me how big my belly was and I used to say it’s inappropriate to comment on peoples bodies. That did the job for me and especially friends and family stopped making comments.

With me the complete opposite is happening… I am 24weeks with my first and the jokers around me keep asking me if I am sure that is not twins… tbh I couldn’t care less about what they say!
I already feel like wardrobe anyway

My aunties did this to me when I was 14 weeks and visiting them. I was so excited to announce my pregnancy to them and they said “are you sure you’re just having one? You look way too big for 14 weeks.” And another said “you don’t look pregnant you just look fat.” It really hurt my feelings bc I was so excited to tell them I was pregnant and they made me feel really bad. I cried and it ruined my trip. I talked it through with my therapist and there was so much pain behind those comments bc I started this pregnancy a bit bigger than usual bc we had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in December and I put on about 10 lbs then that I never lost. Pregnancy has been such an exercise in vulnerability for me - some high highs and really low lows. This is not easy!

Everyone carries differently. I had people tell me I'm huge when I was 20 weeks and they also said, oh imagine how big you're gonna be at full term if you're this big now. Slightly insensitive but most people don't mean any harm. You enjoy your bump, it's beautiful no matter what size x

Totally relatable. I have no idea why people think pregnancy is a time when it's okay to make unsolicited body comments. It's not okay when I'm not pregnant so don't start when I am! Lol

Don’t listen to others comments. I’m polar opposite where people think I am having twins 🙄. They have to remember it’s all down to the babies position, your genetics etc.

Got it allll the time but my boy was measuring big in every growth scan and was born a healthy 7lb4oz, just ignore the comments I don’t think people understand it’s actually very rude and is body shaming x

I would just tell them that there comments are hurtful and to be more mindful about what comes out of there mouth's!
Honestly since I've been pregnant I've never been more vocal about how I feel ...

Honestly I would love to hear that I look tiny in my 5th month of pregnancy I got all the way up to 211 pounds with my son and now this one I am at 190 but on my last trimester finally stop allowing other people's opinions to have so much control over your emotions when u allow people to have power over you like that it shows people that you are an easy target coming from someone who was bullied alot u got to learn to just let it go in 1 ear and out the other who cares what they think as long as the doctor says you are measuring normal and that the baby is healthy that's all that matters fuck everyone else's opinion

Honestly, your bump is your bump. Others may look and say whatever they want, it doesn't necessarily mean it's true. Don't give weight to what they're saying. I had a small bump and felt big, but I just rocked it with a smile. Just said this is my lil bump. Before you know it, you will get much bigger around 8 months. Pregnancy is one of the MOST vulnerable times for a woman, next is postpartum. Our hormones are preparing for this tiny little human who we are going to adore and love and hug and hold and protect. You will forget any of that when baby is born. You're beautiful the way you are. Let those comments go and just tell them kindly that you feel hurt and for them to be more supportive. Most people don't realize how sensitive we get so they choose ignorance. Just tell them. Wishing you the best and all goes smoothly.

When you're pregnant people will ALWAYS make comments about your bump. Its like they cant help it. Even if its not accurate. I walk around and people keep saying Im having a boy.. when Im not... that I dropped when I havent. (Im 39 weeks) etc. Just say haha ... and ignore them. People literally have nothing better to do. Their comments are so subjective why bother paying attention much less getting upset over it. Just ignore it and embrace your bump and your body and only pay attention to what your doctor says. No one else!

You are doing great! Baby needs all of the stuff that is within those 20lbs - blood volume has doubled, you grew a new organ, and baby themselves are all super important. People just don't get that every body is different when bumpin out! You're growing a great little person in there, don't let the body talk get to you.

I just find it so unnecessary in general to comment on other people's bodies, especially directly to them! I get that some people think it's just harmless small talk but I'm really struggling with people commenting on my changing body and would rather they didn't.

For me it doesn't matter how look I am, carrying a baby is responsible,no matter how hard it is,and beside it's your choice,...

My family and friends love to joke but it’s not when your saying “ uh you skinny Bitch” or “people hate girls like you who don’t even look pregnant” I got that all through pregnancy and after… not what anyone, especially a hormonal tired mom needs to hear! My kid is my priority and I’m doing what I can to keep everyone taken care of! So take your comments and piss off! 😝

Dont let anyone's opinion about your body bother you. I hate that especially women judges another's body we should just bask in your glow and move on.

I've always been a plus sized woman when I was pregnant with my daughter you wouldn't even know. This time around I have a huge belly I have always been quite small in the waist and it's a little bothersome for me. I figure the best thing to do is just be happy to wear my bump proudly until I can snatch this waist lol

I think they’re just trying to be nice since so many women actually complain about being huge and hate when people say how big they’re getting. I completely understand your frustration, but I think they’re just trying to be nice. Just make it clear that you love that your body is growing and you’re embracing the change, then maybe they’ll adjust :)

I am in my 6 month of pregnancy and having small cute bump and I personally thinks having small bump will help me get Back in pregnancy shape😊

Most people couldn't tell I was prego until I was 5 or 6 months when I started really blowing up, and made plenty of comments about how little it was and not blevins me when I said how far along I was so I feel your pain

I loved that people told me I was tiny because I didn’t want to gain a bunch of weight. I went from 137 pre-pregnancy to 130 in the first trimester and ended back at 145. Lost all of it upon birth. This was baby 1. I didn’t want to be one of those who hated their body’s post birth. I didn’t change anything I was doing, I just didn’t have the mindset I was “eating for two”.

Screw what others say as long as u and baby healthy who cares what ur bump looks like

I loved having small bumps wouldn't want to be massive 🙈

7 months and told I'm tiny. Even by my obgyn. My entire family is on the smaller side so it's really no surprise that he's on the smaller side

I had this with my first! I just wanted to be big so bad 😂 they are trying to be nice but it used to upset me too hun. Hang in there, as the girls have said above the bonus with a small bump is you bounce back soooooo fast! I'm with my second child now and larger! So you will get your wish if you have another :)

My first bump was tiny, even my 2nd wasn't anywhere near the size of other mumma's (but the muscle memory gave him a little more space than my first). I was 40 weeks +8 days with my first - they said I looked about 5 mnths (my belly was so tight you could see her curled up on one side or the other - 100% baby. Gosh I was grumpy she was late 😅) but when she arrived, she weighed 7 pound 11 (3.48kg). My boy was also 3.3 kg & 3 weeks early. I am 5'10, ridiculously strong abs and a long torso. My bumps were tiny, my babies were both very healthy but tummy never "popped". Everyone is in your corner - and you are doing great. (my partner was constantly yelling at me to eat more with #1 because he was picking up on all the "she's so small" comments, but I was doing everything right.) He didn't even with #2 because he saw our thriving #1 completely obliterate the growth milestones. Check in with your GP, ask about nutritionalist guidance going into 3rd trimester - for your energy as much as bub's ❤.

Right.. and size of belly is not related to the size of the baby my belly is also small even the doctor thought so too and when I got an ultrasound she was totally fine where she’s supposed to be with growth and weight

When will people stop commenting on pregnant women’s stomachs 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve heard that I’m “tiny” and that I’m “huge” from different family members and I wish they would just stop. People should just say “you look great” and leave it there, or don’t comment at all

Tell them… what my bump lacks in size I made up for in the nipple department!! That should shut them up! Joking. Your body is your body. It’s yours and doing an awesome job to keep you and your baby healthy and strong. Having a big bump or a small bump is of no matter in what you are doing. It’s just a matter of you honouring your body and it’s work. This is just an all the time mind set. Not everyone will get it or stop commenting. But you could say to them with love - my body is packing a punch for this baby and I’m so thankful for that!! Most likely it will change the dialogue from less of a how you look situation and more of a how bad ass what you’re doing is.

I have a tiny bump As well and people tell me all the the time.. I love being small as long as my baby is healthy and growing the way she should. I personally don’t know anyone who “wants “a huge stomach . Everyone is different some people never even get a bump at all.

You are not alone, you have all of us in your corner. I was in the same boat of you. Everybody was always telling me how small I was, and it always put me down. I gave birth to a healthy baby girl and was proud of my little bump even thought people told me it was always so small. People really need to shut up and not comment on pregnant woman’s stomach!

I was told that my whole pregnancy and it never did make me feel any kind of way. I was 95lbs before I got pregnant so maybe I was just used to being told that so much that it didn’t bother me. But I was small. I didn’t really start showing much until closer to 30 weeks

They probably mean well and are looking for something appropriate to say. I felt similar to you for my first pregnancy. Don’t let it get you down but if it is hurtful you can just tell them that it feels hurtful and explain why. As long as you stay calm and rational most people are pretty reasonable about respecting feelings.