Bedtime
What time are you getting your LOs down for the night now and how are you finding bedtime? Weāve had the sane routine since my daughter was a few weeks old - bath with her older sister and 6.45, followed by a bottle and ideally in bed by 7.30. This worked at first but over the last few weeks sheās been fighting it a lot and, with the exception of a few days last week which were a lot easier, itās a bit of a battle to get her down and features a lot of screaming and resettling. Not sure if we are putting her down too early or late? Her last nap is usually a cat nap (30-45 mins) and finishes by 6. Sheās pretty good at settling herself from a night feed, but seems to be unable to do it at bedtime, even with her dummy.
Would this upset youā¦
Our baby never sleeps, so our current arrangement is I will feed her to sleep around 8-9pm and then when she wakes initially my husband will hold her in his arms until around 11pm-12am, then he puts her down and goes next door to the spare room to sleep for the night and I do the rest of the night alone (but obviously have been able to get a couple of hours head start on sleep while heās been holding her)ā¦
Today he has gone to watch the football with his friends and had several drinks and got home around 8pm⦠I fed her to sleep as normal and put her down and I heard him getting up to leave, when I asked where he was going he said next door, and when I was confused he said āI donāt trust myself to stay awake with herā implying he had drank too much and was using it as his excuse to get out of helpingā¦
So not only have I solo parented all day, I now have to all night with no help at all, and then we are straight into the working week where itās all on meā¦
I just feel SO ANGRY about it - if it was a one off thing or a special occasion it would be fine - but football feels like itās on every other week and itās not acceptable to me to drink enough where you are unable to support your struggling partner for the first couple of hours of the night?!
Do I have a right to be annoyed?????