Bedtime

What time are you getting your LOs down for the night now and how are you finding bedtime? We’ve had the sane routine since my daughter was a few weeks old - bath with her older sister and 6.45, followed by a bottle and ideally in bed by 7.30. This worked at first but over the last few weeks she’s been fighting it a lot and, with the exception of a few days last week which were a lot easier, it’s a bit of a battle to get her down and features a lot of screaming and resettling. Not sure if we are putting her down too early or late? Her last nap is usually a cat nap (30-45 mins) and finishes by 6. She’s pretty good at settling herself from a night feed, but seems to be unable to do it at bedtime, even with her dummy.

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We've had the same "routine" since I brought my little one home and it seems to have worked. We take him up to bed at 8:30 and we give him a bath, get him ready for bed and then give him a bottle (this swaps round depending on if he wants a bottle first). I put him in his sleeping bag and he knows then that it's night time and he's usually asleep by 9-9:30. I sometimes have play some white noise if he's feeling a bit unsettled. Maybe try moving her bedtime to a bit later and see if that helps.

Hey lovely, from what I read a bedtime between 7-8pm is ideal so you’re within that ragged. As well as ensuring that bay is awake for 2 hrs prior to bedtime so you might need to move your LOs last nap to a bit earlier. Also, you may want to consider how much day time sleep your LO is getting in total as I’ve seen 3-4 months is between 3-4 hrs so if they’re getting more they may not be sleepy at night. Hope that helps 😊

Completely understandable as you have your eldest in a good routine and it would disrupt that. What do you do for daytime naps? Might be worth changing them up a little bit and seeing if that helps 🤔 good luck mama 💕

How are you all doing this? Are you leaving baby in the room on their own and going downstairs with a monitor on them or staying in the bedroom with them whilst they sleep? I’ve just been keeping my baby downstairs with me (albeit asleep) as the guidance is for them not to sleep alone until 6 months. Absolutely no judgement if you are using a monitor, I’m just curious as am looking to switch our routine up a bit.

I hold him until he's asleep and sometimes rock if he's taking a bit longer to go to sleep 😊 if he's feeling extra sleepy, he'll self soothe and go to sleep pretty quickly.

My little girl used to go down about 7pm after bath bottle it worked good then she started playing up now we aim for 8pm and she settles much better

My little one tend to put himself to sleep at around 6/6.30 and does 4 hours stretches until about 6am. He has a few small naps during the day. He settles absolutely fine with at bedtime but during the day he will not settle for a nap it's like he has fomo 🙈xx

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Hello!

What times are your LO going to bed, how many wake ups and what time is start of the day?