PPD please help
Hi, not expecting a diagnosis obviously but maybe just some opinions and or advice. I have a nearly 4 month old. I’ve been to my doctor re my mental health and they have told me to do a self referral for some talk therapy but it looks like it could take a few months. I’m really struggling but I don’t know if it’s a normal amount as a new first time mum or something more. I feel very low a lot of the time, crying most days but not every day, feeling isolated (no mum friends), feeling like I’m not enjoying being a mum as much as I hoped, missing my old life and freedom, struggling with patience and the constant crying and fussing, feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, jealous of my husbands life, feeling like I’m not doing a good enough job, worrying I’m not doing things well enough and it will negatively affect her, only feeling better when I have people with me who know about kids and can step in and help eg in laws etc. I have tried hard to work on being positive, I get out for multiple walks every day, I’ve joined a sensory class, I’m on this app but I feel like none of it is really working or doing much. I feel like I’m ticking boxes of things that should help but I’m not making any mum friends and honestly a lot of the time it feels like I’m masking. Sometimes I get so upset and cry and I can’t really explain why….
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First of all, you are not alone in feeling this way.
I have PPD. Was diagnosed rather early on. I have battled depression in the past. But I hadn't been depressed for a few years before having my LG.
Regarding your doctor. I would advise getting another appointment and explaining that talking therapy has a massive waiting list. And, if you feel it is right for you, that you want to go on medication. If you are breastfeeding, I did, you'll probably be put on sertraline. Which is what I was prescribed and I am still taking.
I have felt and do still feel the same as you, on a daily basis. Just not every day, anymore.
I recently started taking my daughter to a stay and play at a church local to me. Maybe there is something like that you can go to, as well as your sensory class? Have you thought about swimming lessons too? Sorry for bombarding you with questions. But swimming lessons helps with bonding, gets you out and talking with other parents and it's a good life lesson.
It can be a very tough time around that 4 month mark, but regardless of that, this sounds like more. The advice from Charlee is very sound.
Inbox is open if you need a friend to chat to. X
It may also be worth investigating perinatal mental health services in your area.
If you get a referral through perinatal mental health services, it should jump you up the waiting list for talking therapies.
I’m in the same boat as you. My baby’s four months but she’s my second child. I had ppd and extreme anxiety with my first and now with my second and it feels so much worse. I was really struggling the first few weeks but I was referred to the perinatal mental health team and I have a mental health nurse that comes to my house to talk to me and ask me what I’m feeling. I’m also on medication which really hasn’t been helping. I came on the app to make mom friends who understand what I’m going through. Send me a message if you need someone to talk to. I know I wish I had someone to talk to.
You are not alone, I felt exactly the same way. Talking therapies made me a priority due to being postpartum, I had my first appointment within a few days I think. Ask the question or go to perinatal team like others have said. Well done for getting help, you can feel better again 🧡
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Hi, not expecting a diagnosis obviously but maybe just some opinions and or advice. I have a nearly 4 month old. I’ve been to my doctor re my mental health and they have told me to do a self referral for some talk therapy but it looks like it could take a few months. I’m really struggling but I don’t know if it’s a normal amount as a new first time mum or something more. I feel very low a lot of the time, crying most days but not every day, feeling isolated (no mum friends), feeling like I’m not enjoying being a mum as much as I hoped, missing my old life and freedom, struggling with patience and the constant crying and fussing, feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, jealous of my husbands life, feeling like I’m not doing a good enough job, worrying I’m not doing things well enough and it will negatively affect her, only feeling better when I have people with me who know about kids and can step in and help eg in laws etc. I have tried hard to work on being positive, I get out for multiple walks every day, I’ve joined a sensory class, I’m on this app but I feel like none of it is really working or doing much. I feel like I’m ticking boxes of things that should help but I’m not making any mum friends and honestly a lot of the time it feels like I’m masking. Sometimes I get so upset and cry and I can’t really explain why….
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