Sex after baby

Sex toys and games, role play, different positions, different rooms, have sex in different places.

I didn’t have sex until about 4 months Pp as I had a 2nd degree tear, sex was so painful that my husband noticed and didn’t want to have sex with me for a while. We were also sleep deprived as we bed shared with our baby. I was having some trouble at 6month pp and no orgasm and just pain so I look for help from a pelvic floor PT… After couple months I was feeling again, before that sex was just for him, which in our case he doesn’t enjoy if I don’t either.
Maybe thats what could be happening for your husband, also parenting changes perspectives for men too, find others ways to connect before sex, and if you still have pain look to heal yourself too, having a baby and also if you tore is very traumatic, so take your time for things to go back to “normal” and maybe find a new normal too.
Anyways, maybe not the answer you wanted but something to consider in case it could help.

Sometimes just dressing up and feeling sexy helped me to get out of that rut

Yep currently and I’m not really into it much either because we’ve always had a fun spicy ,sex life & now i feel like it’s routine and same ole sex😩😂😂 but I’m just like ok whatever now i don’t complain because i guess this is the life of having a newborn now.

Yip same, we were always very very sexually actively, now baby is 13 months and I have bad hips, pelvis, knees and back so we just kind of settled into missionary at bed time

When baby can sleep out you have the night alone. So make the first move in a different room and do more foreolay etc xx

I had a bad tear and just felt a lot of pain and continued bleeding for months I was going to therapy cause I didn’t feel much enjoyment but honestly, with the little one we really don’t have much time for it. We have gotten very busy. Whenever it happens is a treat though. 🙂

No, you won't be here forever. Just like your baby is going through stages, this happens to be a less fun one for your sex life. And this sounds rough edged, but you are still having regular sex at this time, and most people that I know( including myself) went through some form of dry spell. This might be your form of that. Adjust as parents to the new lifestyle a bit, and your sex life will change again. You'll have to be much more intentional about getting it there, whereas before it came easily( no pun intended sorry)

My partner and I went to kink parties while I was pregnant, but ever since my sons been born we find it very hard to leave the house. We don't have friends and family to babysit much. And because my son and his mother live with us we very VERY rarely have the house to ourselves to have crazy fun. So I definitely feel what you're saying.
I feel like things will only get worse, because as babies grow and develop they require less and less sleep, and then once they're walking and can reach door handles there's just no privacy. Goodbye exciting sex life.
Definitely talk it over with your partner, and make sure he understands just how important it is to you and why.
I had an ex previously who'd say something like "it's just sex, who cares if it's fun or not. As long as you get off nothing else matters." That sort of attitude was one reason why we didn't last. To me there's got to be more to it than that.

Me and my man been together and married for going on 9 years.Its ok there will be ups and downs on the sex life department w kids.Its normal.Life gets busy and there will be times when you guys will get all hot and wild again.No worries.Dont stress❤

You said you have tried to bring it up and nothing changes so you initiate the change. Do something to switch it up. It is difficult with little ones. Eventually they get older they sleep through the night in their own rooms. Once they can get out of the crib, get a lock for the bedroom door.

Think of some new things you want to try (or retry) then put the baby to bed and have sex on the couch. You have to make an effort if you are unhappy with your sex life. He won't be able to read your mind and you could end up resenting him if you don't change things.
Having a baby is exhausting though so don't be too hard on yourself if things aren't the same anymore.