10 month old still not in a sleeping routine 😴🥱

Out of interest, what does his day sleep look like?

so he usually wakes up inbetween 8/9. He then naps around 11:30 and again at 2:30/3. For probably 45 mins to an hour sometimes. Xx

We have a similar routine to you but we bottle feed. I feed my little girl until she falls asleep and then I put her down. It can take a few times as she sometimes wakes what I put her down. I’ve found putting her to bed earlier helps. Aim to get him down for 6.30-7. Everyone is different but personally 8 pm is too late.
My little girl will go down between 6.30-7 and will sleep until 6am. She’s then up until 8.30 before her first nap (normally an hour). Then she’ll nap again about 12-1 and then again at 3-4. She’s ready for bed by 6.30 but we start our bedtime routine at 6. Bath, book, bottle and bed.
Make sure the bedroom is dark enough, he could be waking because it’s too light.

Following as I am in the exact same boat. He sleeps around 8-9pm and he has his bottle at 10pm (as he only takes his bottle while he is asleep) and I put him in his cot. He sometimes wakes up after an hour or two and I bring him to bed. Wakes up around 3:30-4am for a bottle again. He sometimes take the bottle and sometimes doesn’t. And then wakes up again at 6:30

Maybe take a look at @heysleepybaby on Instagram really helped me with my 2nd.

He is up at around 6:30-7 naps at 9:30 and then depending on how long he naps he will have a nap at 1 and at 4. Ideally he will sleep til 11am then again at 2pm but this doesn't often work. We then bath him at 6ish and he goes to bed at 6:45/7pm. He will always wake again around 9:30 or 10ish and have some milk and then he is up anywhere between 1 and 3 times in the night we bedshare so I still feel rested even though he wakes regularly. Sorry that I don't really have advice but understanding that my babies sleep pattern was perfectly normal helped me with baby no 2 so much.

If it were me and I was starting from scratch I would try doing things like habit stacking (I’m assuming from your post you are looking for gentle ways and not CIO type methods) which is what I have done with my son to get him away from being ‘boobed’ to sleep. We do a little wind down routine, which can be anything you like, but ours is after bath dark room, has a feed in the chair while dad reads a story, then dad put him in sleep sack and passes to me and we put the white noise on and we rock in the chair and I sing twinkle twinkle until he is closing his eyes and then I stand up with a few bum pats and then lay him in his cot and keep my hands on him for a second or two then I scuttle out! My son has been a nightmare to get down to sleep lately tho - there is a major drama with their development around this age hence the fighting to go to sleep so it may just be a phase that he’s being a diva for you. It’s really tough, I also found lowering my expectations, if he’s not tired …

Just bring him out of the room and try again in 15 mins. I would get SO worked up pacing the floor, getting bitten, slapped etc because he just wasn’t tired 🤷🏼‍♀️ I would get dinner ready for me and my husband so it was ready to go and I would just let go of all expectation of it being nice or actually eating with my husband at all 😂 best of luck 🤞🏼

My 10 month old was dreadful for 6 weeks after starting to crawl. Last 5 nights I've breastfed him almost up sleep and then put him in his cot and helped him stay asleep/ go to sleep by keeping lieing him down (i know they say not to do so). That happens at 8pm. I usually do another feed say 10pm and he wakes at least every 4 hours but if I'm in bed then i just take him into bed and we co sleep so i get a lot of sleep despite feeding often. Sorry that probably doesn't help you but maybe useful to know that i changed his cot and think that's what allowed him to now go to sleep relatively easily

What we did was went for the easiest lowest effort bedtimes. Its much less stressful esp as I’m working as well & I need my sleep!
We still breastfeed to sleep now & only bedshare. Our routine looks like:
When she is rubbing her eyes/tired we go upstairs (between 7-8:30) & I lie & feed her in the dark (blackout blinds). Sometimes she decides she’s not tired straight away & will crawl a bit around the floor whilst I just chill & wait (usually max 5-10 mins), she comes back, I feed again & she falls asleep. She then wakes 2-3 hours later at that point we are often in bed or nearly in bed & I feed again & then she doesn’t wake usually till 7:30.

This has worked much better than trying to put her in her cot or anything. Its a very basic routine which requires much less time as you can ninja roll away. It may not be what youre looking for but it has worked for us. I think because she doesn’t find it stressful she’s linked bedtime as a nice thing (she now even waves goodnight to her dad!)x

Only 4 hours?!! Mine is still up every 2 😭 I’d love a 4 hour stint. Just here to try help make you feel better - your not alone!

Does your little one go to nursery? Maybe copy there Routine? Xx

Literally was about to write what wrote. 4 hours sounds like a dream!
Not helpful, I know but a solidarity post and hope others can help you 🙏

So it’s not to say it’s okay. But bedtime is always a bottle for us. I got in the habit for ease of bringing my boy into my bed because I was going in constantly he wasn’t really awake awake but wanted a dummy or settling.

So I started back at the beginning, bath 6pm bottle 7, he falls asleep on me for about 30/45 mins then I was going up to bed with him but putting him back in my room in his travel cot, I did this for a few days and then moved him back to his room, he will wake roughly at 3am I give him his dummy and blanket and that’s it. So this has been good for about a month, don’t get me wrong I think three nights he’s woke up properly at 5 but the rest of the time it’s been 6/630.

For me starting back at the beginning was a major help and because he used to go through the night from about 6 weeks old I knew he didn’t need milk, if anything I give him his water if he really wakes up.

It’s so hard x

No advice here , just pass to say how beautiful your baby is 😍👶