My sister is pregnant and I had a miscarriage 4 weeks ago

I feel you I was in a middle of an missed miscarriage and my sister in law had their second girl ! It was so hard

I definitely can understand where you are mentally, I haven’t been able to fully focus on the positive things about life because of the stress and depression I’ve experienced after my miscarriage. If you ever need anything feel free to send me a message! Im here for you sending prayers your way💗

It is important to feel those feelings. Very close friends to me announced their pregnancies after our miscarriage. It takes a while to heal. But give yourself that time to heal. Just be honest and let her know what your heart has space for. Examples: Don't share updates unless you ask. Tell her you are excited, but maybe can't help plan her baby shower. Those kind of topics. Space was the best thing for me. But I understand that won't be as possible with a family member.

Thanks for your words and love. Those are very good advices. ❤️

Well hopefully as it's still a fresh wound I would hope you can talk to your sister and just tell her that you love her, you're happy for her but it's really hard for you during your grief and take some space. I pray she'll be understanding and sympathetic towards you as another pregnant woman 🙏 I was in a same situation with my sister in law but she did the opposite and instead of giving me time and space to grieve she tried to take out baby items and then cussed me out and called me a baby killer because "I was ignoring her" no we're Not contact

Hello Andrea !! Where are you from ?

I understand how you feel Andrea. I had a miscarriage and a week later my brother and sister in law had their baby. I’m happy for them but still sad about losing our baby. Healing takes time. And you need to take all the time you need. You can still be happy for your sister and sad for your loss. The was the biggest lesson I learned from this loss.

Me and my twin sister got pregnant around the same time (not on purpose) she was 8 weeks ahead of me and I miscarried, everyone deals with it differently but I didn’t really associate her pregnancy with my pregnancy. So I never saw it as a comparison. My sister has always wanted a family and I’m glad she has that. As for me my time will come. Having said that I have had my moments where I felt sad when buying baby stuff for my sister and sometimes thinking “these could have been for me”. But in general I am so thrilled my sister has been able to successfully carry her baby and I can’t wait to meet her. It’s still really hard to fathom though when you want something so bad and you have to go through miscarriage and start all over again! It’s so daunting xx

Thanks for sharing your story. I think after some months I have accepted it and feel now very happy she is in this moment enjoying her pregnancy. I try to not compare, as you say there are still this kind of times I feel exactly "this could have been for me" but I prefer to be strong and keep thinking positive until I have a rainbow baby xx