Mil kisses baby on the lips!!

My mil keeps kissing my baby on the lips. She’s done this before and I had enough so a few months ago my partner sat down with my mil and had a serious talk with her about not listening respecting my wishes. Since then there has been a few little things but nothing major.

Today we have spent the day round at mils and she deliberately kissed my baby TWICE on the lips. She has now been told numbers of times NOT TOO! Why isn’t she listening! I told my partner and he’s now saying I have a problem with his mum and I just don’t like her (we’ve argued about this tonight) I know I should have said something there and then but I just feel I can’t. Me and my partner agreed only me and him to kiss baby on the lips. My partner didn’t say anything either when it happened even though he saw it happen🤯 I just don’t want to be made out to be the bad bitch by saying it all the time but she keeps doing it!

What can I do? Because it’s really getting on my nerves, I feel so scared to say no/stop in front of my in laws and I do relay on mg partner to back me up. She isn’t listening even after my partner spoke with her a few months ago. Just looking for advice really if you was in this situation!

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You are going to have to say something at this point. I know you’re scared; however your boundaries need to be respected. You can say it politely of course - no guarantee that she won’t get her feeling hurt but at least you stood up for yourself ♥️

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Please don't let her. Tell her no or she doesn't see baby. I've been in hospital with my little boy since Christmas day because he's got bronchiolitis and there is nothing more thrightening than watching your child struggling to breathe and there's nothing you can do! And it's all because family came round with a cold and give kisses aswell. I wish I'd of been stronger because maybe we wouldn't of spent our first Christmas in hospital. RSV is so dangerous

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Unfortunately, he has to address this. I know it’s hard in the moment to say something to her. But next time hopefully there isn’t a next time. You have to tell her no. She is clearly doing it to bother you. You are the mother, so you can give a cooling off moment until he speaks to her again. Not only is it bad for germs, as babies have a weaker immune system. Right now hospitals across the US are filling up with small children. The flu is going around, COVID variants and RSV! Your mil makes me so mad. Selfish lady. Ugh.

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I know it’s hard but it’s your babies health and you have to say something . RSV and other serious illnesses your baby could get from people kissing her on the lips! I don’t even kiss my baby on the lips! Do you ?? She’s clearly doing it because she knows you won’t say anything and is testing your boundaries. I would just send her a few articles on how dangerous it can be. And if she does it immediately take baby back and explain why. Trust me you’d rather have an awkward moment with your MIL than a sick baby in hospital. Good luck!

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I talked to my partners mum because same I asked her several times to stop kissing and putting my babies hands in her mouth 🤢
I had to be very blunt with her. The conversation that should have taken 10 minutes took 2 hours because she kept making excuses, but I stood my ground and said the statement, "You are her grandmother. I am her mother. What I say goes"
I've only seen her twice since, but there was no finger sucking 🤢 so I'm hoping it's got through!!!!

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I have a middle aged friend who contracted cold sores as a baby, because an Aunty kissed him on the mouth when he was tiny! This is reason enough to dissuade mouth kissers! 🥲 has plagued him all his life

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The other day my fil went to kiss my girl goodbye on the mouth while I was holding her, he kinda got her cheek, I get along with him so I just said “ooh not so much on the mouth please” and he was fine and didn’t do it the next time we saw him.
You have to say something. Even before you let her hold your baby say “now just to remind everyone that we don’t want anyone kissing baby on the lips, you can kiss on the head etc but not directly on the mouth”
And if she still does it you’re going to have to say no to her holding baby and why.
Sorry but you have to speak up about it, you can do it, practice at home things to say to her xx

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I'd be telling her until she respects the fact that you don't want her kissing your baby on the lips, then she's not seeing the baby at all until she learns. I've told family and friends I don't want them kissing my baby for atleast a month on the face or hands and everyone has said they're fine with that. I even said my bubs will have those little mitten gloves on and people are welcome to kiss those, just no skin.

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Next time she goes to hold the baby, look her in the eye and firmly say, "No kisses on the lips, or I will take the baby and leave, and you will not see us again for a while." If she kisses on the lips, take the baby and leave. Don't come back around until she's ready to play by your rules.

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