Cat hair dangerous for babies?

Hello ladies! Me and my husband have 2 cats and one dog. We are expecting our first baby by the end of the month. We live in a one bedroom apartment and all the pets sleep with us. My mom and my aunt who is a doctor are freaking me out about the cats hair. They say is super dangerous for the baby because it was a bacteria that can go in his lungs and cause bad breathing problems. I will never ever give ride of my cats. So far I got a mosquito net for when he is sleeping. Do you guys have any comments of suggestions?

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That is a great idea! We have two dogs and we have so much hair around our house. Good thinking!

Following. I have two cats and a 3.5 month old. I currently just keep them separate

I have 2 cats, a dog and 2 birds and live in a 2 bed room appt!
I just Vacum every day, and when she was in a bassinet in my room I had a mesh cover over it!😄

^ I agree with Amber, our air purifier is good at keeping stuff out of the air

We have three cats and a small (non shedding) dog. I was most concerned about the cat snuggling/smothering the baby unintentionally. We have cat hair everywhere and it's likely our 10 month old has ingested quite a bit. He even has tried to "eat" the cat. We clean the house every two weeks, but not much more precaution than that. I had COVID when he was 3 months (no symptoms for him) and he had RSV at 9 months and though he was sick, his breathing was never in question. In my opinion it's better to be exposed to the dander/allergens/hair early on to get the immune system working. They do say children who grow up with animals have less allergies 😊

We have 2 kids, 2 cats, and 1 dog! We vacuum frequently and just clean frequently in general. We don't go out of our way for keeping the cats fur off stuff. Our kids haven't had any issues. If your cats are healthy and the area your cats frequently reside are all clean, the risk of bacteria making your child sick is minimal. And being around animals can actually strength your immune system because it introduces your body to different allergens!

In the same situation and am worried about the same. A mosquito net sounds like a great idea

We have two dogs and a cat. I run air purifiers to help with dust and pet dander, and just regular cleaning. I sweep, vacuum and dust regularly and it’s never been a problem. I wouldn’t buy a mosquito net to protect your baby. I’d think that’d pose more of a strangulation risk.

Good idea!
I have a cat and dog, and didn't think about this potential risk. I let the cat and baby be close at times with my supervision, and haven't noticed any issues. The cat loves to snuggle by me and I'll often have the baby with me feeding or just in my arms or lap.

I have 2 cats myself in a 3 bdrm ranch house.

There are quite a bit of studies proving that children in houses with animals are healthier than kids without. That being said, I still vacuum weekly and clean the litter twice a week. The cats have free range over everything in the house. You’re hyper-aware of everything for a while so stay conscious of your animals and you’ll be fine.

I was worried at first when we started cosleeping because my cats like to sleep by my face or on my face.. but they don’t really like her yet because of the noises she makes, so they don’t sleep next to the person she’s laying with. I feel like have to say we’re still cautious and pay attention to the cats and her. But the hair and dander should not be an issue and I think the netting would be a bit much.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭