I don't know what to do.

A little background: we had to call code enforcement because our landlord is hard to get a hold of. Even the water company can't get a hold of him. Our water heater busted and flooded the master bathroom and most of the master bedroom. There is a million other things that are wrong and it is just not our place he owns the next door neighbors too. They have just as many problems. My 1.5 year old daughter is sick and I know it is because of living in this house but everyone besides my husband is telling me to stay here until the 13th. That is when the code enforcement is coming back. If the things aren't fixed by then we have to get out. So far the landlord hasn't tried contacting anyone or sent anyone out. I want to go to a hotel as soon as we can because I am getting tired of taking showers at other people's houses and I don't want to give my daughter a bath at someone's house and having to come back to our place in the cold when she has wet hair and is already sick. I am also tired of warming up water so that I can give her a bath that way instead. We should know by today or at least by Tuesday if we have an apartment but it won't be ready until about the end of next month to the beginning of March. What should I do? Should I just wait it out until the 13th or should I tell my husband that we should just go into a hotel?

in our community

PPD and betrayal

My husband told my sister in law and her wife about my post partum and intrusive thoughts. She said she’s a mandated reporter and threatened to call on me if he didn’t get me help. Here’s the thing, I already received help and am feeling great. I feel betrayed by my husband. I trusted him telling him my thoughts a couple weeks ago and he went and took it outside of our home. I’m pissed at her that instead of calling me or offering assistance her first thought was to report me. I feel so betrayed. I didn’t know any of this was going on until my mother in law called me today asking if I was ok and then explaining why.

Anyone else frustrated at their partner?

Is anyone else getting agitated by their other half's unawareness of being a parent? Don't get me wrong, he's a great dad to our 4 month old, but I don't think he realises how much I do compared to him. Admittedly, he goes to work (9 to 5 three days a week and 9 to 7 twice a week). I do the cooking, cleaning and ironing; his only chores are clothes washing (which I sometimes do anyway) and bdoing the dishes after dinner (after I've cooked and cleaned most of them!) I feel like I do everything for the baby. I'm exclusively breast feeding, so I know he can't help with that. But he probably changes 1 or 2 nappies a day. And he thinks playing with the baby for 30mins whilst I make dinner or get a bath going, is helping me?! He goes to the gym every morning before work, so doesn't help at all with the morning routine. He doesn't help when it comes to going out for whatever reason- like he's almost oblivious to what I've done in terms of packing the bag, sorting outfits out for the next morning, making sure nappies/wipes etc are topped up. I dont think he even knows how to steralise! And when he does "help out", he'll do half a job. For example, if he does the bath, he'll leave the bath toys and bath seat in the tub. Or if he changes the baby before bed, he'll leave the nappy sack & old dummy on the side.
I've tried speaking to him about it, and his response is, "well I do more than most dads!" and "I could go out every Friday like XYZ and get drunk, but I don't."
Don't get me wrong, he puts our baby first and will play with him when he's home, but I just feel very frustrated at the situation! Is anyone else feeling the same??
*rant over* 😅

So is divorce the solution ?

I’m not the same women my husband married and I don’t see myself being her ever again. If I would have known before…. How much I would change… I probably would have put more thought into getting pregnant and having a baby and not done it. However we are here now and I absolutely love my baby more than anything. I feel my husband lost his wife he married as I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I see our sex life is gone and I don’t feel as free to do much anything other than being a mom. I’m not managing week I’m coping as best I can with the huge adjustment and it make me want to just raise my child without having the pressure of being married… I cannot beg ive my husband what he needs and wants and frankly he can’t give me what I want sis just too much. Regardless I have fallen more in love with him I’m just disappointed we can no longer have the lifestyle we had before it’s not sustainable for me as a mother.

Partner not a clue?

Anyone else’s partner just not understand babies? This is our second and I don’t remember him being like this with our first. But our 6 week old won’t settle with him at all since he went back to work a week after he was born. My partner constantly gets angry and annoyed that our baby is “too attached to his mother” and that he should just be able to sleep in his Moses basket without needing to be held or walked around and that our 4 year old should also just be able to go to sleep on his own. He always talks to them but like he’s blaming me while talking to them like I’ve made them want me more than him and it’s honestly starting to get to me. He wants them both to act like they’re teenagers and not a newborn or young child! I’m breastfeeding alongside formula this time and he gets mad that the baby keeps trying to shuffle down to ‘his boob’ to find comfort and will shout out that he doesn’t have one like it’ll make a difference 🙄 he even said that i need to choose between boob or bottle because it’s harder on him to settle the baby but I would’ve thought being able to give a bottle too should’ve helped him bond, but he only does a feed once every couple of days anyway

Distracted feeding.

How is everyone dealing with distracted feeding?? My little man is 3 and a half months and used to eat so well. Now it can take him an hour just to eat four ozs. He absolutely wants it but, continuously pushes it out of his mouth and then gets mad or sometimes he just keeps it in his mouth and doesn't drink at all. Its so damn frustrating. Does anyone have any tips to help him stop doing it?

do you take advice like criticism?

sometimes my family make suggestions or give me unsolicited advice about things like the clothes of my baby (too tiny or too big, too warm or too cold), or even his sleep schedule (how much, where, when should he sleep) and I can't help but taking it a little personal. My mom says I shouldn't, it's not about me, but I genuinely hear "you are a bad mom" "you aren't doing a good job". I don't want to be egocentric but can't help it...😓 any advice? How do I change my perspective and stop taking it like criticism?I'm I the only one?
(I'm 21 yo, I think that's also a big factor on how people treat me)