¿Cómo dejo de odiar al papá de mis hijos?

No se preocupa, ni hace algo para ver a sus hijos, y me duele que no los vea 💔

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En algún momento los va a necesitar y es ahí donde va a arrepentirse

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Piensa si odiarlo te ayuda en algo, que crees sea lo mejor que tú hables mal de él o tus hijos se den cuenta por si solos lo que el es??... Te lo dice una mamá que paso por algo similar

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Hola estefani
Me pregunto lo mismo a diario, la bb que tengo fue prácticamente en su inicio planeada por él, yo la vdd ya no estaba tan convencida de tener bbs, pero por alguna razon cedi, y ahora dura semanas sin preguntarme siquiera como esta su hija, se la pasa insultandome cuando me ve o por mensajes.
Me a servido mucho la terapia psicologica y estoy buscando un grupo de apoyo de mamás soltéras.
Puedes buscar ayuda para sanar todo eso que cargas, sobre todo para que te liberes de pensamientos tristes y la relación con tus hijos no se vea afectada, se que fuera de que él se lo "pierda" quienes pierden son nuestros hijos, por que son niños y ellos desean y quieren un papá con ellos y se pierden esa hermosa experiencia..... Pero dales todo el amor que te sea posible y al papá de tus hijos Odialo pero que no sea para siempre por que te hara daño ese sentimiento..
Creo qur hay que permitirnos sentir todo pero sim excesos.

Te mando un abrazo 🌼

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Hola es triste como una relación que comienza con amor se puede transformar a odio. Y justo porque eso es lo opuesto, sentir desprecio hacia alguien nos llena de coraje, rabía, enojo puros sentimientos feos que se van acomulando, es dificil volverse mamá porque nuestro cuerpo lo siente, tener pequeños humanos dentro nuestro; ya no poder tener sentimientos libres porque sabemos que lo que sentimos ellos tambien o simplemente sino estamos felices no estamos tranquilas.
Yo te diría que trates de olvidar ese odio porque va a seguir siendo una lucha constante. Piensa positivo gracias a el tienes unos angelitos que te amaran te cuidaran, te haran compañía y gracias al desapego de este señor tienes a tus niños para ti, si el tema es dinero de corazón deseo que vengan tiempos mejores eres chingona y podrás sin el, tal vez va a ser dificil pero siempre imagina en la satisfacción que sentiras al decir lo hice yo sola. Lo he logrado

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Trata de concentrarte en el amor, la paciencia, el tiempo y muchas cosas que tú si les puedes y quieres dar. No te concentres en esa persona que no puedes ni debes controlar. Mientras que él gasta su energía en otras cosas, tú concéntralas en ti, estar bien para ti misma y tus hijos. Cuando tengas esos sentimientos y pensamientos trata de controlarlos viendo a tus niños, juega con ellos, proponles alguna actividad que cree un mejor lazo emocional. Si te concentras y pasas esos pensamientos y los traduces en palabras a tus hijos ellos le darán importancia a algo que será un problema que no podrás tampoco solucionarles a ellos. Abrazo y fortaleza mamita.

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Mil gracias chicas, en serio me hizo bien leerlas, aunque se que será difícil pero debo alejar esos sentimientos que me lastiman 💔
Quizá el tiempo me ayude! 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Is this insanely overpriced? I posted on my local support group for parents of kids with disabilities asking about summer camps....

I got a message about a daycare that will be holding 3 different summer programs that run for 3 days in the last week of July for 450 dollars per child. 450 dollars for 3 days of "camp" seems like a rip off to me especially being for kids with disabilities???

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Is this normal parent child bonding to you?

Overheard my husband and his brother discussing their next trip to forbidden planet… and he tells him he plans on bringing our 1 year old along. Now I don’t know a whole lot about it but from what he’s explained before it’s a fiction/ fantasy comic/ book/ toy store. He’s always said it’s packed and he is in there for ages. Not sure why they’d think that’s a fun thing for a 1 year old to be dragged to, as well as the fact that our child has never been exposed to any cartoons, screens, fiction books etc and won’t be any time soon. She would have no clue what she’s doing there and will get bored quick.
I’ve spoken to him before about pushing his interests onto our children, understandable when it’s sharing a toy or short book or pictures that seems normal, however I’ve had to address him in the past regarding purchasing silly items to only take a quick picture or video of child with it and share it with his family making out that our child is interested in or even sometimes obsessed with them just because she’s holding them and looking at it (what kid wouldn’t 🙄). He’s been doing this kinda thing since she was a baby, she’ll crawl and he’d record her crawling to one of his toys and plaster it on his family group about how much she likes the toy now… as if she had a choice in the matter when it’s purposely put in front of her while all other toys removed, y know? I know he thinks I’m being extra but I’m an educator, I value teaching children and babies to explore appropriately, fostering their interests and following their lead. I feel my husband just wants her to be dragged into such places or ideas so he can be performative, and from my observation he only bonds with his siblings over avengers, Pokémon etc etc because they were glued to the TV and YouTube as kids and still are. I feel strongly about exposing her to these things at such an early age but I don’t think he understands. I totally get wanting to share your interests with your child but I mean just because I love makeup, I’m not about to show my child tutorials and get her a kit. I want him to notice what she loves doing, and work with that. Not just what brings him pleasure. His style does not feel natural or appropriate to me.

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Overwhelmed…..

I’m so fucking overwhelmed and frustrated I’m done being a mom!!!! I get ZERO fuckin help from my husband. Only help I get is my mom and that’s if she comes get us. I don’t have a car. Can’t go for a walk. No park. No nothing but a 4yr and a 3month old in a two bed 1bath apt 24/7 365 being basically a single married mom!!!! I’m over it!!!!!!!

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Having a mental breakdown

My kids love chicken nuggets for lunch, im sure this is my fault because I dont like to spend my entire day cooking meals but thats beside the point. The great value dino nugget recall has me sick to my stomach terrified. I already have a fear of food and getting sick from food, then come to find out something weve all been eating was tested for potential super high lead levels freaks me out beyond belief. Not only for my kids but for myself too. I might be crazy but ive already called poison control, called their pediatrician, and scheduled a lead test blood draw for myself.
I feel like such a shit parent. I just want the best for my kids but I feel like im failing them in so many ways right now. I wish we could afford to get the best most healthiest organic food for them and I wish I had the time/energy to make them all their food scratch so I know what theyre taking in is good for them. With the prices of literally everything raising, how are we supposed to do this?
My entire body aches today from either a virus or a autoimmune flare up and then to find this out just has me feeling like shit in every way. I hate all of this.

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Would this make you worried gym daycare.

I was showing my 3 year old how to use the toilet at the daycare at my gym. We go in and I notice there’s also a door inside the single restroom on the other side. I figured it was a utility closet. As I’m walking around the gym I realize the daycares restroom is double acess. It’s also the toilet for employees that work the front desk on the other side.
Like wtf? How would they know if a small child walked out the the other door. And how do they prevent random weirdos from coming in the restroom when a small kid is in there because you know half those kids don’t use the locks. Absolutely insane design. So now I make both my kids go when I get there and showed them how to use the locks every time.

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Hey girlies ...

I'm going from a working mama to a stay at home Mama. And I feel like I'm not gonna be able to deal with it. How does you stay at home Mamas keep your sanity? Give me advice... I feel like I'm going to be bored like while the kids are at school and fall into depression. But I want to adapt... And put myself on schedule....hmmm give me some advice y'all 🤔🥹❤️ how do you cope ?

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