Emergency c section

I had to have an emergency c-section at 34 weeks. My sister in law told me how lucky I was because she begged her doctor to have a c section. Then my paps girlfriend proceeded to tell me I didn’t actually give birth because my water didn’t break, I didn’t dilate, and I didn’t push. Makes me feel like they’re discounting my labor experience. I wanted nothing more than to have a full term pregnancy. I feel robbed of the last push of my pregnancy. Being a NICU mom is not for the weak. Rant over

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Honestly, motherhood taught me to cut those kinda of people out of your life. In the moment you're most vulnerable full of hormones, going through a NICU stay, and people have the audacity to say stuff like that? For what reason? You did gave birth, you are not "lucky" because you had a c-section (its a MAJOR surgery, not a convenient way out of the natural one,like some people might think). Do NOT waste your time listening to those bs, cut those people off your life and worry only about your baby. And a last advice, get in touch with a therapist. I also felt robbed of the labor/delivery I thought I would have and took me months to get used to it with the help of a therapist. Postpartum depression is real and nobody should give the chance of it to happen if can be avoided!

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