Should I feel bad about only wanting women at my baby shower?

A recent friend’s baby shower was only women. They said if they invite husbands and kids it would go way over budget. It’s your baby shower! Invite who you want and makes you happy 😄

Nah, do what you want. Plus baby showers have literally traditionally been women-only for so long, do you

It’s all about what you want to do. Different cultures celebrate in different ways (all women or co-Ed) but at the end of the day it’s YOUR baby shower the only person who (should) have a say is your significant other.

I’d be shocked if a guy showed up even if invited. It’s so traditionally female only most guys would just as soon accept an invitation to an MLM party selling menstrual products. It could come across as intended for any female significant others in the guys’ lives and result in the awkwardness of uninvited ladies showing up instead thinking they were invited. Don’t know why mil would make such a cluelessly bad suggestion unless California might as well be a foreign country with a completely different culture.

In my family, the traditional baby shower is woman only. The men do a separate party with baby's father to celebrate.

It's also your baby shower ! Do what feels right and comfortable for you.

No way, don't feel bad! It's your special day to celebrate your new little one. Traditionally it's meant for and celebrated by women. I would tell her that you want a traditional shower. The brothers and dad can help with the before setup and after take down..

My sister-in-law shamed me for having s girls only but I spoke with my husband and he had no desire to be there at all. And I couldn't imagine the husband's wanting to be there. That would also have brought it to 60 people + kids. Way too big. I just had mine on the weekend with girls and it was the BEST!!! Do what works for you and your partner.

Short answer NO. long answer NO. Do what you're most comfortable with.

No, I don't think it is fair that other people are trying to put this on you. It's your special day, not theirs. Stay true to your wishes and desires.

Thank you all so much for reassuring me. 💖💖💖 This may be a good opportunity to start setting some boundaries going forward lol.

Boundaries are important for every relationship. The sooner you start the better. It's hard at first but it's worth it. Good luck

One option is women only for a certain period (e.g 1-3 pm) then men welcome to join 3-4 pm so baby daddy can get well wishes too and if he wants to be involved in gift opening! My husband wants to be involved in opening all the cute little gifts

I’ve got two men coming to mine, but they’re my Dad/step-mother’s neighbours who are a gay couple and I adore them. My husband and Dad will be on babysitting duty for my niece and nephew, but I’m sure they’ll pop over at some point. You do what you’re comfortable with. Do they want to even come? Would they be comfortable joining in? You can always do something separate with them later. Curious what your MIL’s intentions are here.