Ladies I’m looking for a bit of help

Before I got pregnant me and my partner were constantly having sex like every single day without fail, more than enough times a day. I was mostly the hornier partner and our sex life was unbelievable.

Since being pregnant we don’t have it anymore, I don’t get horny or want to be intimate and he doesn’t really try ( probably because he knows how I am at the minute) however when we do have sex it’s very very very sensitive and hurts a lot and I’m not really enjoying it like I used to. I have had a lot of issues in my pregnancy and I’ve been really unwell throughout the whole pregnancy so this probably doesn’t help.

But I’m just concerned that I’m going to stay like this forever, I mean I can’t wait for my daughter to be here so I can enjoy sex the way I used to and just to not feel like I’m intruding my daughters home while she’s growing 😂😂 I just feel weird doing it while I’m
pregnant. I don’t like him touching my breasts or kissing me a certain way it winds me up and I’ve never been this way 😩😩

Does anyone else feel this way

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I'm going through somthing very similar. My husband and I used to have sex all the time, everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. Since I got pregnant we don't because I'm so sick, not feeling it up to sex, or just not feeling sexy. My husband still trys but it doesn't go far. Poor guy 😅

I'm due in June.
I'm not sure if it will go back to normal but I've talked to a lot of people that have gone through the same thing and there sex drive did return 😄

You are definitely not alone 😊🥰

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It's not forever. I'm sure things will go back to normal.

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I would recommend lube for when you do feel like having sex - I’ve found I’ve been really dry since I got pregnant which was making sex uncomfortable

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The option for lube is a great suggestion. I started struggling with pain during sex, and finding out that lubrication helps is tremendous. I recommend this hybrid lube from Pure Romance. I've tried it, and it was great. It's slippery, but it's more of a gel than a liquid. I also have sensitive skin, and this particular lube didn't cause any irritation. My favorites include the Just Like Me watermelon, Whipped Vanilla Cupcake, and Sensations Pineapple Paradise for my foreplay needs.
Here's the link of the lube that I mentioned👉🏽https://pureromance.com/collections/lubricants-creams?pws=OliviaBellamy

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