Potty Training Regression

Oh my god, I’m one and DONE just because of potty training. Started to train my 21 month old. I know that might seem young but I dove 6 months deep into potty training research because this stage gives me so much anxiety. I’m not a patient person at all so I wanted helpful tools and such. I started and the first few days were amazing. Then at the week mark he had a couple of bad days but then it picked back up after that. Fast forward to today, about two weeks in, and he acted like he wasn’t even potty trained today. Accidents left and right. Going limp body when I take him to the toilet after he tells me he has to go. After a number of refusals, he decides to pee on our rug. Wtf?! Everything I’m reading says to just push through resistance but today he straight up peed on my lap with no warning. As if he didn’t even feel it coming. Wtf is going on??? Please someone tell me how to get passed this because I’m about to start day drinking lol

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Also he won’t poop in the potty. Straight up screams at the top of his lungs if I try to entertain him on the potty. Today he pooped into his hand when I went to the bathroom and left him unattended for two minutes. Help me please.

I haven’t started yet but I’m already scared on how it will go for me 😭😭😭😭

Research made me feel better about it but the process is making me weep lmao

I don’t think it’s early at all. And just like you, I’m not a patient person at all. I go from 0 to 10 real quick 😭 I’m on potty training regression bus here too. It’s a bit frustrating, especially when I know some kids who were potty trained way before 2. Yeah yeah, every kid is different but still, it’s frustrating.
No advice here. Just solidarity

Potty training isn’t for the weak of heart. It’s honestly on ongoing up and down for most. My oldest is 3 and we started potty training at 18 months (intro) then full on at 2. The first 9 months, she had good weeks and bad weeks. There was a phase of peeing on purpose on the ground and lots of times when she just forgot to go to the potty because she was busy. Then it all seemed to click. She now has an occasional accident, but we go all day no diapers now. Most of my friends with similar aged kids (3y) have said the same, the first few weeks are rough. But they WILL learn. Keep at it and try to watch for his cues. New skills can sometime take a while to master.

Aha yes glad I'm not the only one ... I was potty trained by one and my little is 2 in a few months 😭😭 and we're not close to be fully trained .

I ha be e 4. I never potty trained them. I offer the potty when they are ready they will go. They have a few accidents here and there for about a week or two and that's that. They were all ready at different ages but all completely out of diapers by 3yo.

Thank you everyone for your validation and personal stories❤️ We’re keeping at it!!

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wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?

Heartbreak

After years of trying, months of back and fourth on the fate of our marriage, indecision, fights. The whole enchilada my husband and I are separating, divorcing. Whatever. I'm so goddamn heart broken. I feel like it's a death and I'm in mourning. We have a 3 year old son and currently and for the foreseeable we are going to coparent and live together. This makes things harder because neither one of us can really move on but it's how it is. He understands and he's trying to heal too. But I can't understand why now that things are over he can be kind. He's been more amazing in the last week since I ended things than ever. Why couldn't he do that when we were together for years I begged for change, we saw a counselor I tried everything and he just wouldn't. Now he seems to turn a switch and be able to just do it all. But it's too late. My heart aches. My body aches. Love sucks.

Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

Am I wrong ?

My daughter’s 1st birthday was Thursday and nobody wished her a happy birthday from her dads family but his mom watched his story. Should I put my foot down and set boundaries for them to accept accountability or should I just let them stay on that side for as long as they want and not worry about it?