Does my fiancé suck?
Am I tripping but, I think he's been absolutely rubbish. He was terrible at the hospital moaning about the chairs and went home to sleep, didn't even ask if it's okay, had a go at me after our son was born saying he will leave me if I don't change, I just had a emergency c section and epidural didn't work so I had to be asleep which was very traumatic. He made me feel so unsafe, he left me in the hospital after son was born just me and him, I had a catheter in, having to try and look after a baby for the first ever time! Then he was rubbish at home, hardly helped really he spent whole day on computer and when I asked why aren't you helping he said he's getting me prepared for when he goes back to work, although he booked an extra week of work! When I go to my mother's he doesn't message asking how our son is. He doesn't do any night feeds, baby is formula fed because my milk stopped more than likely due to stress. We had an argument the other night and he walked out after pushing me over and went to his mother's leaving me crying looking after a baby I had been looking after all day, exhausted. Many times he has told me he is isn't going to marry me, tells me I need to change. I'm just at my wits end, he is the reason I had postpartum depression 100% on Saturdays he doesn't wake up. For mother's day I said I wanted pancakes, he made me toast ... He never wants to go anywhere, moans if we have to food shop. HELP we just bought a house together and have this new baby, I don't know what to do.
Potty Training
PLEASE HELP 🙏 🙏 🙏
I've posted before about potty training, but at this point I don't know what to do. My daughter won't keep her diaper on at night. I have her in pull ups during the day and diapers at night. She most of the time is dry through the night but when she takes a bit too long to go to bed by herself, thats when she pees before passing out. Whats worse is she is a night pooper. I've tried backward zippers, clips, buttons, tight pants, pull ups. They all end up being off. But tonight, was the worst, and basically my last straw. I usually catch it before anything happens, but this time, I didn't.... I go into her room, diaper off (empty) shit EVERYWHERE. Please🙏 What do I do, and how do I potty train? She knows what the word potty means, she knows where it is. She sits on it every morning and after naps and on and off during the day. So she knows what it is. People keep telling me to have her say it by teaching her the word, she knows the word but she is non-verbal. It is so much harder (I ENVY moms who have non-verbal children and are still doing it) She can't even tell me when she's hungry. I know there are non-verbal moms in here. PLEASE advice or tips ANYTHING. I'm so done and exhausted. And I've been told just to have her around in underwear. But its hard to find underwear that fits her because she is on the smaller side. Plus I have fake carpet, the shitty pull up tile carpet. I can't clean it. What do I do?
