Who can I call and get some information about custody?

I have a almost 4 year old who I don't have custody of. Long story but he was awarded to his dad. In Washington where I used to live they awarded his dad full custody but I have been noticing that there is something wrong with our son. There is a chance he has Austim maybe even add or ADHD. He can't talk well. He is always sick with ear infection, the croup, or the flu or some kind of stomach bug. He goes to preschool but hardly ever goes because he is always sick. When I tell my ex that I am concerned about something and he should bring it up to his doctor he says ok I will. I wait awhile and ask if he got him checked or brought up to his doctor my concerns and he says no I didn't I don't think it is something to worry about and he is fine now or he also says I forgot and it doesn't concern me. But all the signs are there. Even if it is small he could still benefit from some help. But his dad won't listen to me. So I need to talk to a lawyer or someone here in California to get some advice and see if I can open up a case here and get some advice on what to do. Does anyone know anyone I can talk to? If you do please comment or message me. Thank you

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Call cps?

Dont you have visitation of some sort? Unless it's not alone I would take him to dr myself and when you make appointment tell the dr or nurse all your concerns.

Call regional center and get him evaluated or when you have him just try to get him tested

The first thing to do would be call CPS and voice your concerns. They will definitely do a welfare check on your son and if something is wrong, they can force his father to take him to get checked out. If the father doesn’t, they can take legal action against him.

Now if CPS doesn’t see anything wrong, I believe you can still open up a case with a lawyer or even on your own. Since you believe your son is being neglected, the judge will open a case on the matter and investigate.

I really hope everything gets figured out. Definitely call CPS on Monday morning and talk to them about the situation.

I have all my rights taken away. My ex told a lot of lies and had everyone except my family and friends believe him.

calling CPS won't work because it would be Washington CPS and my ex has them wrapped around his little finger. Somehow he is always able to work them.

then definitely call CPS on him

like I told Kassandra, it would be CPS in Washington and they don't seem to do anything. My ex has everyone from CPS to the judges wrapped around his finger. CPS will not work for me. But I will try calling a lawyer and asking my questions.

like I have said to a couple of you who commented CPS in Washington is who I would call and he has them wrapped around his finger. So that won't work. I am going to call a lawyer and see what I can do.

ok sorry, I hadn't read the comments about it before I responded. Definitely see what lawyer says then but somehow you need to get him services if he needs before it gets harder for your son

it's ok. And yea I am trying but my ex won't listen to me. So that is why I think it is best to at least talk to a lawyer and see if they can answer my questions and hopefully I can do something

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We had an awful incident in the park today. My daughter (who is only 2 and a half!!!) was playing and this boy the same age came into the tunnel. I heard her scream I want to get out and then the other mum came over and was like shouting and saying that it isn’t kind and that you have to share and what a horrible child etc. I thought she was speaking to her own child but when I went in and said please can you move over and let her out the mum was like your child can’t behave like that and then I realised she was talking to my daughter and telling her off! She claimed that my daughter had kicked her son, I didn’t see this or believe that it happened as I was watching and her son didn’t look upset or flinch at all. I do know she isn’t an angel and doesn’t always like to share, she’s learning, she’s 2 and a half!

I asked her politely not to talk to my child like that and she went mental saying that the world doesn’t revolve around her, of course I think she’s perfect and I’m raising an awful human being and not fit to be a parent. She was also imitating my little girl. I was with two friends, one who is male, who stepped in and said it wasn’t acceptable and that the women absolutely should not be talking to a 2 year old like that as well as to me. She then started saying that it wasn’t okay for a man to be arguing with her and he was a waste etc. I know it shouldn’t bother me because she was just an absolute idiot but it’s really affected me and I’ve cried a lot about it. I just wondered what other people’s thoughts were?

Worst of all my little girl keeps asking why the lady was shouting and saying she’s scared to go out in case she sees that lady.

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