Partner and mil vent 🥲

Long story short after going on 5 years of dealing with my Mil I finally stopped worrying about trying to be close with her (I was very much a people pleaser at this time and just wanted her to like me) . She finds so many reasons to be upset with me and will turn anything around for everyone in the family to think I’m always the problem. I’m leaving it into my partner to just have a relationship with her . He doesn’t talk to her much or really care to go around because I don’t wanna go anymore and he understands but since we have a baby and he want to keep hopes up that she’ll change . He keeps trying to ask her why she acts this way towards me and try to get her to include me in things .. even told her to text me after going 6 months of no contact just to prove that she’s trying .. all I told him was to leave me out of that and to do what he gotta do to navigate his relationships with her . It’s put too much on my mental health and I’m finally at peace with myself but he keep trying to convince me to give it another try for his sake .. how do I support him to have a relationship with her without me ? (After she texted me I blocked the number) it’s getting to the point where I’m so close to leaving him just so I won’t have to worry about this because this is so draining

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@Shadeja he’s definitely not gonna stop talking to her so by just removing myself is the best thing in my case . It’s draining and I want no parts in it anymore

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@Shadeja that’s the problem.. we’ve set boundaries and the only person who gets the backlash is me . I let him talk to her about them since I can never tell her how I feel without her turning it around on me making me the problem.

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Please set boundaries with her, and if you and your husband have to remove her from yalls life for a time being thalen do so. Because if you and her don't get along the child/kids will sense it and start asking questions. At the end of the day do whats best for the kids, because in the long run it will start having an effect.

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I understand where you’re coming from. My mother-in-law is the same way with me and I have been married to my husband for eight years. Just recently I stop talking to her. Just like you I wanted her to like me from the beginning, but everything I did was still wrong and always found a reason to start problems with me. My husband definitely has my side and isn’t even talking to his mom either. I did tell him though if he wants to talk to her that to leave me out of it. Just talk to your husband and set boundaries and have your husband explain those boundaries with his mom. It also helps if your husband is on the same page as you and understands how it has affected you.

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@Syeda thank you so much ❤️ I really needed to hear that !!

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Don't give her the satisfaction of breaking you guys up. If its impacting your mental health set some firm boundaries with her and make this clear to your husband. You don't need to have a close relationship with her and could just be on civil hi/bye terms without having to deal with her nonsense. Understand that the things that she says are a reflection of her own bad character and try not to let it bring you down. Some people are just miserable hence try to make others feel the same way.

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Side note : I stopped going around because of how uncomfortable she’d purposely would make me and when he would tell her to stop she never took it serious .. so when I stoped coming to her house and he didn’t wanna go she told everyone I was keeping him away from her and I’m trying to break their relationship………