Crossdressing Husband

I would be exactly the same! So much shock. I would be mad he was hiding something for me and probably be so mad.
I would talk to him straight up.
Why did you lie? Do you like men? Do you like woman! Do you like both? Do you love me? What is going on.
(I would just ask a lot and understand that he may not be open to explaining everything to you since he never mentioned it before)

I would be absolutely heartbroken because that’s something you don’t hide from anyone but yes a lot questions to be asked for sure. Just need to have a big talk with him and see where his head is. Best of happiness to you.

Some guys just like cross dressing. Two of my exes did and one now identifies as gender fluid as pansexual, but the other is 100% straight. It's definitely worth talking about, but try to be open minded and understanding about why he might have hidden it. A lot of men are made to feel ashamed for liking anything remotely feminine, and he might have internalized that, or been afraid of being judged for it.

It could be just some fun he has with his daughter.

I doubt someone would invest in a whole entire wardrobe, make up, and accessories for pretend play with their kid

I have an uncle with 8 daughters and he is the king of playing dress up with them but that’s not all mean

that's awesome, I think having adults engage in dress up and pretend play is amazing for kids

I would find a calm time in the day to ask all those questions you have. Definitely can’t move on without answers to those questions. I wouldn’t be able to hold that in at all.

It could be coping mechanism for dealing with past trauma. Doesn’t mean he’s gay. I think it’s weird that your 4 year old is the one telling you tho

Therapy! There is definitely something more going on with him than just this cross-dressing thing. He obviously has way more secrets he isn’t letting you in on!!! Don’t take it lightly. It’s not a game or an accident, it sounds like some deep rooted issues. How sad. I am so sorry for you. Do not have any more children with this man. Find yourself. Make yourself ok. Make life ok for your 4 year old. Of it were me, I’d leave him. He’s definitely got things going on that I’m personally not interested in dealing with or having my children deal with. Best of luck.

Most men who cross dress actually are straight. There are different reasons for cross dressing and I’d be very curious to find out what they are. A lot of men feel shame about it which is probably why he kept it a secret BUT you are married with a family and he should not be keeping such intricate and clearly well developed secrets from you. I would be broken hearted if I found this out. If it were me I would speak openly with him to let him explain and prepare myself for anything he has to say. And ask all the questions you want and need to as well!! You do deserve answers. I know it’s hard but try to be open-minded.

I hope everything works out for you guys. Best of luck!