How do you deal with bullies at the park?

Because my daughter knows some words but still basically gibberish I try to be her voice. I say to other kids give her space, it’s her turn right now, please don’t touch her, we’re sharing, we’re taking turns.

I hate parents that basically ignore their children at the park. I sit back to allow her some freedom but I’m still close and watching, and will interfere if necessary.

I love what said.
If it seems another kiddo isn’t receptive to mine I’ll tell mine - oh it seems like they want to play alone or want some space & move my kiddo onto something else. Or I’ll give boundaries for my kiddo like mentioned. Including using my body to block other kiddos if necessary.(by placing my body in front of my kiddo, or my arm around her)

Ugh that is awful 😖 I'm sorry. I haven't dealt with this yet, I feel like I would handle this terribly.

I agree with yajaira but I also use my body as a shield with my son he's well advanced with his speech but won't talk if he doesn't know the person so I will be his voice and if the child won't leave him alone or won't share I will move my son somewhere else or tell a child to wait their turn if my son is already playing with it sometimes he will play with another child but sometimes he won't

honestly i still struggle with this as well. Like i avoided the park because of this but i learn to use these situations as a learning opportunity for myself and my kids. I would say “hey we dont push or hit” or gentle hands” also you cant tell your child” they are not your friends, why dont we go find other friends”teaching her to walk away when kids are being mean and find new friends.

I was at the park yesterday and stayed close to my son at every point ( at some point , I actually felt maybe I was being over protective and not giving him enough space to play ). In your situation, I will tell the bully not to do such to my son and that he is not allowed to bully other kids as other kids are not allowed to bully him . Then I take my son to play in a better space .

I mean I'm not sure a one year old can be labelled a bully that seems a little unfair their still babies... like yajaira said you could say don't hit, Share etc but I would not label any baby as a bully x

I wouldn’t say that kid is a ‘bully’. It’s pretty normal toddler behaviour at certain stages. They don’t like to share and they are very emotional. Like it or not, your child will likely do that to someone at the park too. I doubt you’d like your child labelled a bully for it 😅

Of course you should protect and redirect your child. Keep them away from the older child if necessary. But it’s just something kids do from time to time.

so where do parents come in when their children show such behaviours towards others because I personally didn’t see it from this perspective until I read your comment. I won’t want my child acting in such manner to anyone whether he likes them or not . What do you feel a parent should do to teach their kids not to do such to others ?x

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I have always taught my kids that u treat people as they want to be treated so if they dont want hit and say gentle hands to them or that's not nice to hit let's go over there till u calm down I have a 2 yr old and a 16 yr old and I have always taught them to express how they feel obviously my 2 yr old can't so I go on eye level and distract them from the situation by saying someone hit u and that wasnt nice I know but should we go and play with something else normally it does work but u have to be consistent some parents don't teach their children to be nice to others and that's a shame when others just want to play with them but people also have to think if the child might have other needs i.e autism as that can cause some to be socially awkward as well it's important to not label them as bullies coz u don't know what is happening or their situation if that makes sense but always talk to ur children as soon as it happens as ur children r likely to learn from it I also give them cuddle

I am really doing all it takes to make sure my children are good to others . Your perspective to it is also remarkable. It’s good to know there are parents who make conscious efforts to teach kids to be better versions of themselves . It’s also true some might have special needs which will cause them to act in some way . Sincerely, I won’t know what to do if someone hit my child though.lol. Parental instincts gets the most part. Hopefully I never get to experience such 😅

oh yeah we definitely intervene if there’s bad behaviour. Especially if it looks like it might escalate to pushing or hitting. I have a three year old and it’s not as simple as them liking a person or not. That all changes second by second 😆 toddlers have a lot of big feelings and even the kindest, meekest one will lash out occasionally. It’s human nature! We teach and model good behaviour all the time and see that as our role as parents. I only objected to the 1-2 year old being labelled a bully. I don’t think it’s that simple.

oh! Now i get you. I almost thought you were encouraging it😂. Yes , you are correct as it is totally unfair to label a 1-2 year old as a Bully because they are most likely not aware of their behaviour or it’s consequences. It takes conscious effort from parents to guide them . Very Well Answered.

Find the person or persons who brought him to the park. Alot of kids learn bullying at home. They need to handle it. If he goes to school later and does that, they'll be getting phone calls.

i see what you mean and that is part of my question because of the trigger knowing this is another small baby too. That’s why I just walked away and was wondering if anyone had tips for that.

Although I do consider it bullying since he was following my son around to push him off of things and not let him play when my son was doing his own thing.

I love your perspective! I used the word bully because it was the first word that came to mind but perhaps there’s a better word for it

see I was an awful child but it was coz my brother is disabled and he got bullied a lot at school so it was me sticking up for my brother basically (can't stand bullies) but if I saw my brother getting hit or picked on I got in the way and said come on hit me but u won't get another chance at it now when I say bullying they used wooden planks with nails in it and I wasn't putting up with that (I'm 4 yrs younger than my brother) but they hit him in his bad foot he's got a club foot and hes epileptic so it's dangerous for him mind the cowards always backed off though so I bought my kids up knowing that everyone is different and not the same and we should always be kind to people who r different and not judge like we do with other people my daughter was getting bullied at school and I always went in to see the teachers and headteachers but I did also say that give them three warnings and if they r still hitting u hit them back (she was 7-8 yrs at the time) she's never hit anyone at all and moved school

Awwn! Bless Him. That sounds utterly awful. I cant imagine kids using woods with nails to hit anyone. I imagine them as too innocent for such actions. I am glad you always stood up for him. Everyone needs such love . It’s also good you are teaching your kids to be better. SuperMum.

it was awful mind I'm talking about the 90s and kids were horrible back then I'm 37 so trying to bring my kids up better than they did back then it was awful for my brother growing up and he suffers mentally coz of them he was always open about his disability though and always said if they couldn't except the fact that he's disabled then thats there problem but they literally tortured him and if I heard anything at school I jumped in