Feeling guilty for not exercising

Hoping I'm not the only one feeling like this! Before I was pregnant I was doing a 1 hour dog walk every day and about 30 mins of HIIT 3x per week. I always imagined myself to be active during pregnancy and sign up to pregnancy yoga classes or prenatal exercise guides. But that went out the window šŸ˜… my first trimester I was so exhausted and sick I barely moved all day. I'm 17w now and although my energy is back I'm finding a half hour walk with the dog is all I can manage. I keep seeing ads on Instagram for all these pregnancy exercises and feel terrible that I haven't done anything like that yet.
Anyone else struggling with this too? Or does anyone have any gentle exercise plans they can recommend? I miss being active but I'm also worried now if I go from 0-100 I'll do more harm than good..

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I’m the same here I don’t do much exercise at all the midwife said as long as I do 20 mins a day for example walking then that will be fine xxx

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I’m the same, always feel guilty. Even tried to do some yoga the other day and couldn’t finish it because I felt so tired. Even though I see all those ads too, my midwife and loads of people have said that walking every day is the best exercise when you’re pregnant so I think we’re doing just fine especially if you’re working too. It’s a lot even though our heads tell us it isn’t. 🄰 I’m with you though, growing a human is a big deal and is exhausting so we need to not put pressure on ourselves xx

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I’m exactly the same. I used to swim 4 mornings a week and cross trainer it an hour 3x a week but everything apart from walking the dog has stopped dead. I’m 17+4 and just thinking about using the cross trainer is making me tired 😓

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I’m the same! I used to weight train 4x a week along with cardio. I’m 19 weeks and haven’t done a thing. I’ve gone on a few walks but I always end up with sore hips and legs for days it’s really off putting’

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Thank you for posting this. I was also feeling the same. I wasn't very active but would do yoga sometimes but now I am so not motivated to do it. I go for walks everyday which I used to before and that feels enough. But every evening I feel guilty I haven't exercised even though I am so tired after a full day of work that I just want to go to bed.

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Same! I was active pre-pregnancy. Used to do 3-4 HIIT classes a week and always wanted an active pregnancy but I am lacking motivation. I think it’s mainly because I don’t know what exercise are safe so have just stopped and now out of habit… 😢

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Honestly the same, thank goodness you’ve posted as I thought I was the only one! Previously a 4+ times a week gym goer, weight train and cardio and I literally can only manage a walk with the dog and that’s about all my body wants to do 😩
Thought I’d be wanting to get back into it by 16 weeks but I don’t know if I’m scared as to what I can do or worried I’ll pass out or throw up in the gym!!

Hopefully we can all manage something slowly in a few weeks!

Sending love šŸ’ž

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An hour dog walk a day sounds very good. I expect you’re doing better than most xx

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Thank you all so much for your replies and so glad this post offered some comfort to others who are feeling the same! I'm trying not to compare myself to how I was pre-pregnancy in terms of how active I was then Vs now, but it's just hard when you're being bombarded by ads on social media all the time! I guess the lesson here is not to take too much notice of them and just respect the process - I keep reminding myself that growing a human is hard enough work as it is!
Really appreciate all the support x

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I didn’t have the energy to do much at all until a few weeks ago. Used to love running but I gave it up in week 6 be cause my legs ached so badly. Swimming has been my salvation- really easy on the limbs and it’s the only time when I don’t need to constantly pee while exercising!

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