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Hi Jess! My 3 year old son has Autism and here are some things that work for us.

He’s a picky eater so I try to stick to what he likes (chicken nuggets, crackers, fruit, ground beef). In order to ensure that he is getting the nutrients he needs, I give him a multi vitamin every day and also supplement with some pediasure often. Kids with autism are usually low in iron so it’s important to make sure they get the vitamins they need. I have heard that certain metals in food don’t help but not too sure.
For toys, it depends what your daughter likes and if she has any sensory sensitivities. Some children don’t like loud noises and sometimes bright lights might overwhelm them. My son loves his little trampoline from Little Tikes. Toys like this help with their sensory needs.
If you haven’t yet, I would get her in speech or occupational therapy if needed. There might be some private schools in your area with preschool programs for special needs kids or your local elementary should have it