Mother in law rant

My mother in law wasn’t happy with knowing Im pregnant. She initially told her son she wanted to strangle me and didn’t care if she killed me while Im pregnant. My husbands family have a different religion to us, he converted to mine. She didn’t want her first grandchild to be from me. 5 months later, she gets back in touch and is all of a sudden very nice! She gifts us money and so many things for our home, is bringing me food and calling me everyday in case I need anything. I knew she was up to no good. She starting asking what the baby’s name would be. When she heard the names we picked, she insisted we give our son a name from her religion and is telling me that this what his name will be! Then she had the nerve to ask me who I’ll be taking to the delivery room. She was so angry to hear that I’m taking my husband and my best friend, she said my best friend doesn’t need to go and she will go instead. She said when I go into labour, my husband will pick her up on the way to the hospital. Obviously, I am not a mug and won’t stand for it but I’m not a rude person and I can’t get myself or my husband to tell her to back off. I feel like next she’s going to try and attend the baby’s registration after he’s born to make sure the name is what she wants it to be. She also does not want MY mum involved and wants the baby to only visit her home for the first 40 days. I wish she would just die. I feel like she wants to take my son because I took hers. I feel so vulnerable as if she can do it. I’m even thinking of doing a will to make sure if me and my husband die, she does not get him.

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Cut all ties with her. When she wants a relationship with you guys and her grandchild with no strings attached then maybe it can be considered. But not until then. Remember that this about YOU, your husband and YOUR child. Don’t let anyone take that away from you

She sounds very nasty. I wouldn’t care if I sounded rude I would tell her it’s my baby and nothing to do with you!!

That sounds disgusting. Just ignore her do it for your husband and baby they are really the ones you need ti care about! I had a fight with mine and she still doesn't get her son has his own family now 😕 and I already said to my husband about visits at the hospital because I know her and she will probably going to be there the whole Time not giving a chance to anyone else. The way she's making difference between my unborn son and my 3 year old drives me mad. My in laws are mad with each other so they don't talk that means she doesn't come 😒 came on Sunday for a Bbq which she never asked if we agreed... left everything for me to deal with while kept my daughter burning in the sun and not even offered water or juice... at the end she told me my kitchen rugs are nasty so as my house. Yesterday sended my husband a text if I needed help so she could come and give a hand, he told her to speak with me while having 100% that I would not accept her help. Never got a text from her and glad I never did.

I know you said you don’t want to be rude, but honestly it sounds like you need to be in order to get through to her. Ultimately though, it’s your husband’s responsibility to make sure she backs off. You definitely need to create strong boundaries or just cut off completely

I’ve got a difficult MIL too and honestly your husband needs to step up and tell her to back off. I never said anything to mine as I always hoped he would since it was his mother and I would say something if it was my mother. She’s got no business telling you what to do with your baby and who to have in the delivery room - its up to you not her. It’s difficult to say ignore her so if you can’t nows the time to say something before the baby gets here and she gets worse x

Your husband should be standing up 4 u x

She sounds horrible and you sound very lovely. I would deal with it in a true responsible adult style and tell my mom to tell her to back off! The first thing that’d be going through my mind would be what is she up to after she admitted wanting you dead… nah. No way, I wouldn’t even try and be nice to her.

Threaten her that if she doesn't back off you will make her. Don't be scared to be mean, you are protecting your family.. also tell your partner to stand up to her!

No ma’am it’s your son at the end of the day she doesn’t call the shots , I relate with my mother in law telling what’s gonna take place for MY CHILD! Boundaries need to be set and I hate that our in laws are giving so much drama when our babies aren’t even born yet . Like and it’s your husband job to stand for you and speak up that’s unacceptable how you’re being treated

So important to have courage to set boundaries firmly with her now before the baby arrives and have your husband support you. If you can’t set those boundaries now, you’ll be extra exhausted and miserable during your postpartum. You are your best advocate. Don’t expect anyone else to do it for you. If she doesn’t want to respect your boundaries, you need to be ok with cutting her out during your postpartum period. It’s so important you prioritize yourself and bonding with your baby in the first few months… actually years!

You all sound so amazing! It’s reassured me a lot that this is MY child and MY moment. I’m going to be more firm because she can’t take one of the happiest moments of my life away from me

@Jannath it is YOUR moment and you should enjoy it ! Definitely don’t let her ruin it. It’s something I wish I put my foot down with mine as I feel like my first pregnancy has be ruined now and I feel angry towards it all now. X

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