How does NJFLI maternal bonding time work?

Hi! I am trying to understand what benefits I am entitled to when I go on leave in December. I have not been at my employer long enough to get federal FMLA or paid sick leave so I am only going to have NJFLI. Can anyone who has actually used it explain it to me? I read the website and didn’t understand it.

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Are you going to be able to use temporary disability first? I did 8 weeks of temporary disability with 4 weeks starting before my due date. Then when that was nearing the end, I got a form in the mail that had a code or something I had to enter on the website for NJFLI. I took an extra 4 weeks with that. It was pretty simple to set up.

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I’m currently on it and can help!

So first you’d apply for NJTDI (disability) - make sure you apply as soon as you give birth because it takes forever to receive it - and then once you have the day your disability is approved for, submit the FLI application.

You can receive up to 12 weeks of pay and it’s 85% of your salary. It caps out at $1,025 weekly though.

Also, FMLA is just job protection. As for paid sick time, NJ requires employers to provide sick time despite tenure

https://nj.gov/labor/forms_pdfs/earnedsickleave/1-3-19%20Employee%20FAQs%20Earned%20Sick.pdf

Let me know if you have any questions!

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(I’m an HR Manager btw so I love sharing info on this topic lol)

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thank you so much. So am I on disability for recovery and then on FLI or are they concurrent? Like from the day I go out (like if I need to go out a couple of weeks before my due date) to the day I come back, what is the timeline?

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you have the ability to begin disability before birth, you would just need your doctor’s determination. Once your dr deems you’re disabled, submit that application ASAP. Your OB will receive the med cert to confirm the date you became disabled. Some start their leave a week or two before their due date even if they’re not considered disabled by the dr

Disability is for recovery (typically 6 weeks for vaginal birth, 8 for CSection). They aren’t concurrent and FLI will only pay out once you’ve gone through disability first (from what an FLI agent told me when I called in)

Once disability is complete & processed, you’ll receive a letter in the mail with a code to complete the FLI app.

I was laid off of work in my 3rd trimester so I had to go through unemployment-> disability during unemployment -> then FLI during unemployment…very painful process! So it took me longer to receive my pay but on average it takes about 1 month to receive disability and maybe a month or less for FLI

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I apply for temporary disability and received 8 weeks and then after that I applied for the family bonding and received 12 weeks in addition.

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were you working when you applied? How long did it take to get the approval? … I was denied for maternity leave payment from my work insurance because they stated it was a pre existing condition so that I’ve applied for NJTD but my maternity leave is almost over so Idk what to do to extend the time till I get a response and see if I qualify

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yes I was working. It took about 5 weeks to receive the first payment

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