Condoms

So my child father has a std today when I went in my son diaper bag I found all these condoms in my son sock 🧦 and he denying that there his when I know got damn good well there his so not only are you cheating but you just using me for a place to stay today is the day I take my life back and put him out for good I can’t deal with the lies I can’t deal with the I love you baby please forgive me I will not be used or played like a fucking fool anymore.because you got a std you gotta have condoms to wrap it up and not give it too nobody but condoms break and you don’t use condoms on me so if we ain’t having sex who the fuck you having sex with karma is a bitch he will get what the hell is coming to him I promise

in our community

What’s a cheap little gift you could buy for anyone. The only thing I could think of is a scratch off lottery. What else is there?

I’ll take any ideas?

Relationship

Mamas, one of the fights I had with my husband, he told me he never will let me leave e with my baby because he said I don’t responsibility. I’m from another country and he’s American. We are okay now, but his phrase it’s in my head, because if anything happen, he can take my baby away !! That’s isn’t fucked up ? Should I just forgive and see what will happen ?

I need friends

I need help. I need someone who I can just hang out with or that can come over so we can do parenting together. My husband works 12+ hours a day 6 days a week and I am so SO lonely!! I just want to cry everyday and I dread waking up every morning. Anyone in the Durham/Raleigh NC area?

Low mood and identity crisis

I'm 12 weeks PP with my second and I'm starting to struggle a bit emotionally.
I have a great husband who is incredibly supportive, but we've been bickering a lot recently amongst managing 2 under 2, and I don't feel very close with him right now. I have no friends, and i rarely see my family due to distance and them working full time, and even when they do visit it's just a polite catch up, I don't really feel close with them anymore. I see other people I know out doing things, going for drinks or going on days out or trips away or spending time with people, and I don't do any of that, literally, nothing. I've tried mum and baby groups but everyone already seems to be friends and I find it uncomfortable inserting myself into preexisting friendships.
I feel completely disconnected from the rest of the world, and very lonely.
I love my children so much and I love being their mother, and I'm functioning day to day just fine. I keep myself presentable, I get outside to exercise, I eat well, I care for my children and maintain the house. But that's all I am. I just seem to exist for this at the moment and nothing else. I feel completely paused or in limbo, idk. Im exhausted so I'm often stressed and overstimulated and frustrated, and I do sometimes question if I'm a good wife or mother, or even a good person if I can't seem to make any friends.
Does anyone else feel this way? I don't think it's depression, it feels very situational, but it's just a struggle right now. I feel quite down and lost about it. While I'm incredibly grateful for my life and my beautiful children and husband, right now, apart from when I see my children happy and smiling, I wouldn't say I'm really enjoying life, I'm just getting through it. At the same time, it doesn't seem serious enough to actually share with anyone else, it would feel too dramatic, certainly not anyone professional. I don't feel close enough to anyone to talk to about this, really. I guess this might help, just sharing some experiences here.

Lookin for my bestie and age don’t matter to me

Hey I’m looking for that girl that’s mine judgemental and like to text or whatever I got slit of free time to text and chat so if u lookin for a bestie I’m open hml

Husband is my only friend

Hi, this may be slightly long because I’m known to waffle so apologies in advance!!

Does anyone else feel like their husband/spouse is their only friend?

Before meeting my husband I had so many friends, busy doing fun things with the gals etc. I fully know when you get into a new relationship you tend to spend less time with your friends, but you find the balance. Everything was great, he saw his friends and I saw mine.

Slowly, as the relationship progressed, my friends seemed to disappear. I’d make the effort to keep in touch/plan meets ups (all while having two children and a full on job). I recognised when I started to become distant and would reach back out, and try to rekindle friendships. I’m very much a “we’re all adults with lives, I don’t need to talk to you every day to know we’re still friends”.

Since getting married, I’ve gone from a handful of friends to none. It feels like unless I reach out first, I will never hear from them again. Some friends are also in marriages, but others live a different life to me eg no children, single etc and on my part I have no issue with that and understand we’re in different chapters but that’s okay.

It’s my birthday tomorrow and no one has asked if I’d like to do anything. My husband planned childcare and planned to take me out. But now he’s unwell, so have cancelled. It’s just hit me that I literally have no one other than my husband. I’m the type of friend that goes all out, I plan friends birthdays, baby showers, celebrate their wins. Maybe I’m doing too much and my expectations are too high because I know that’s what I’d do for someone else. So when no one does it for me, I’m left disappointed and that’s a me issue, not a them issue.

I love my husband with all my heart, but I’m starting to envy him. He has a life, he still sees his friends while I’m either at work or looking after the children. And it’s not because he wouldn’t “let” me or anything like that. He’s constantly encouraging me to go out whilst he stays home with the children. It simply is that unless I go and do something alone, I just don’t have anyone to do anything with.

I’m not sure what the point of this post is, other than another birthday is here and I’m sat just crying about the fact that I can’t wait until it’s over.

I love being a mum, and I love being a wife… but I wish there was a version of me that wasn’t just that.