Alguna mamá que haya estado en la misma situación?

Hola mamás, soy mami primeriza y me gustaría compartir una situación que estoy viviendo con mi pareja.

La relación ha tenido sus idas y venidas, pero desde que nació el bb la convivencia se ha resentido mucho y noto que me trata con muy poco respeto, pensando que seguramente ya no me quiera por la forma en la que me habla y las cosas que me dice.

Recién nos hemos mudado, pero las discusiones son constantes, no siento que tenga nada de cariño y me veo muy sola y desvalorizada. Me hace luz de gas, cuando intento hablar las cosas nunca quiere y es incapaz de hacer autocrítica, dándole la vuelta a la conversación y tratando de hacerme sentir culpable por expresar mis necesidades.

Ante esto, he pensado que lo mejor sería cortar la relación, pero me da miedo por el bb, no somos independientes económicamente para vivir por separado y me duele mucho esta situación, pero tampoco quiero seguir con una persona así.

Pensaba que lo mejor era estar juntos por el bb, pero lo cierto es que cada vez estoy más apagada y me siento muy infeliz.

Qué haríais? Cómo se lleva la separación con niños de por medio? Alguna ha tenido esta experiencia? Un beso.

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Cuando nos convertimos en padres (mamás, papás, respectivamente) todo cambia... Ya que hay que asumir otros roles que antes de la llegada de un hij@ no se necesitaba hacer.

Lo cierto es que independientemente de esto cada persona tiene que ser responsable de asumir su propio proceso de adaptación al cambio, el cual muchas veces no es fácil y tampoco es de un día a otro.

Lo que puedo decirte es que valores si tu pareja siempre ha sido a sido así, de hacerte gasligthing, de evadir, etc... Porque puede ser que él SIEMPRE ha actuado de esa forma y tú lo pasabas por alto.

Podrían, si él está dispuesto a tomar terapia de pareja o en individual... Ya que estas etapas requieren de mucha comunicación y de hacer trabajo en equipo, no de evadir y desvalorizar al otro.

Sobre todo cuando se está empezando a criar a un nuevo ser, ya que es una labor agotadora y demandante.

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Estoy pasando por lo mismo me siento destrozada tengo un bebé de 5 meses y un esposo el cuál no me pela por estar en su juego ya e hablando con él y se enoja porque soy exagerada y lo amo pero no puedo con esto me siento mal cada día que me ignora por poner otras cosas como prioridad solo que quiero hacer contacto 0 para ya no amarlo y después ser feliz con mi hijo

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Por ahora no trabajo ni nada mis papás me dan el apoyo pero no quieren que esté soltera porque dicen que como ya me case tengo que hacer las cosas bien

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hacer las cosas bien no es seguir en una relación cuando esa persona te trata mal, yo he pasado exactamente y me separé en pleno postparto, tenía el apoyo de mis padres claro tb y eso ayuda mucho. Dile a tus padres que por casarte no tienes que ser una infeliz con alguien que te trata así. Mírame yo tengo la custodia entera , pero un bebé no puede criarse con una mamá infeliz o rota. Hazme caso sal de ahí sobre todo por ti pero si tú eres infeliz tu bebé lo será...

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Muchas gracias por vuestras visiones chicas 🫂

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