Feel horrible.

I usually keep my business to myself & just deal with shit as life goes on. But I just don’t know anymore I feel like I’m facing too many battles at one time. My baby just turned one this month. My baby father and I have been having sex on and off since he was born but we were never together. He’s made me feel like shit since pregnancy and I think I fell for him but he doesn’t wanna be with me. I’m in this weird transitioning phase from working remote to now working in person so I barely see my baby now I miss him SO much. I wish i could be a stay at home mom and just be with him all the time but I’m literally the ONLY one providing for him. Just went back to school for my bachelors. I cut all my “friends” off because we just don’t resonate anymore. So now I feel more lonely then EVER. I feel unattractive I feel unloveable and unworthy. I’m gonna be 30 in October and i hate birthdays so I’m not even looking forward to that. Everything in life is super fckn expensive so I’m tryna maintain my mental health while also keeping up with my child and rent and bills and school. Today I found out I’m pregnant but ofc I can’t keep it because that would be foolish of me. I wish i was in a place to have another child but things are already hard providing for me and my one child alone and I know my bd deff doesn’t want me to keep it. So now along with everything else I’m going to have to deal with the emotional weight of going thru my first abortion soon. The weight of everything feels so heavy and unbearable and sometimes I don’t even wanna be alive anymore but my baby is the only thing keeping me going every day. At this point I’m living for him not even for myself. I feel like there’s no happy ending for me… sorry I just ranted.

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Sending love and positive vibes your way! ❤️

If you're worried about the emotional toll of an abortion, maybe consider keeping baby?

From the sounds of it, If you can separate yourself from baby daddy, you'll likely get alot more peace of mind and have a better time taking care of yourself and your baby/babies both mentally and emotionally.

Reach out to local groups for help & support! 💗💗💗
Good luck with your schooling, btw. Some colleges have childcare centers on location.... have you looked into that? Your baby could be closer to you while you're at school, unless it's all online

Sending you love.❤️ if you need someone to talk to you can message me if you feel comfortable enough… I went thru some of the same things :( I feel like a lot of us women do unfortunately… we gotta stick together as women more sometimes then dealing with these “men”. I’m sorry you’re going thru this but remember your son is going thru it with you and he’s there with you cheering his mama on. Tearing up writing this because I’m thinking the same thing with MY son.. 🩵

Sending love your way if you need someone to talk to please message me I would love to talk with you 💖💖💖

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