LG towards other people

I don’t know what to do. LG seems to not like any of her family members and won’t go near them / let them near her. It’s been like it forever. She’s good as gold at home and an angel (mostly!) but whenever we’re with anyone else she’s moody, won’t cuddle , kiss, say goodbye or generally be nice to anyone.
I’m talking my mum, dad, partners mum, my friends etc.

Now I never force her to cuddle anyone, and have told a few family members to stop asking her to cuddles etc because it back her further into a corner and I would never force her to do it (could never force her anyway she’s so stubborn)

But she’s so loving with us, I do sort of wish she would share the love round so her grandmas and grandads could actually feel some of it from her 😂
She’ll only show an ounce of affection/ tolerance if she’s being bribed with chocolate and I don’t want that to continue
Anyone else have similar issues? Know what I can do?

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Partner contribution

Feeling very frustrated with my partner at the moment but not sure if I’m being selfish. He has gone back to work but is fully remote so works from home everyday. He sleeps in the spare room and has done since the moment we brought baby home (he is now 8 weeks old). He takes the baby one night over the weekend and I go into the spare room for one undisturbed nights sleep. I get that he is working, so wouldn’t be doing any weekday night feeds, but even after work he doesn’t help very much. I ask him to help me and he’s fine when the baby isn’t fussing but as soon as he starts crying he hands him back to me stating he “cannot do this”. I feel like I get no break. He watches me run up and down the stairs, making bottles tidying the house and does nothing to help, not even a thank you. I feel like I want to go back to work sooner rather than later to even the playing field as he said that when I start working it would be 50/50. Just wondering how everyone else is doing things with a working partner?

what would you do?

my son’s father and i aren’t together and he is only allowed to see our son for an hour a month (social services are involved, he’s not a good person at all) he also isn’t allowed any unsupervised contact with him until he turns 16.

i don’t receive child maintenance from him and i’m so against him as a person due to his past behaviours and actions that i find it very difficult to communicate with him regarding our son. he messages and calls me constantly but most of it is asking about me- where i am, what i’ve been up to, who i’m with, what my plans are tomorrow etc etc. he doesn’t seem to take much interest in our son.

my social worker has been very clear with me that i am in control and if i don’t want him in the picture that they can make that happen because he isn’t a good person and it truthfully would be easier for my son growing up if he just wasn’t there (he’s 2 months old)

how do i know when to turn around and say i don’t want him involved? because i feel like i’m letting my dislike for him take over

I think I need a break....

Hey everyone!

Context:

Little bubba is 7 weeks old tomorrow, partner has been back at work 5 weeks, my family live 3hrs away and my in-laws are close by but FIL is away in the week and MIL still works plus has 2 big dogs

Question:
When are we leaving our babies with someone for an hour or 2 break? My baby is 7 weeks old tomorrow and aside from sleep and shower, genuinely the longest we've spent apart is 10 mins (we went on a walk with our neighbours and the kids and me and the mum went on a extra little walk leaving kids and the dads at the part Inc the baby).
I'm really wanting some time to myself, my head needs a break but my body genuinely feels like a magnet and I can't leave! I totally trust my husband but sometimes struggle just to lay down upstairs and leave them to it.

I'm combination feeding, offering breast 3-4 times a day

Id love to hear if and when you've left your little one with a trusted person for a break and how it went?

marriage disaster

I’ve been with my husband for about five years on and off, he was my high school sweetheart and we recently got married 3 and a half months ago, 1 week before I had our first baby (my second child, his first). it has been very up and down but I feel mostly a complete disaster since getting married and I have already been contemplating divorce for a full month because he is manipulative, controlling, and gaslights me on an almost daily basis since maybe a month or two before getting married. I don’t want to cut him off but I don’t feel comfortable being married and saying we’re committing our lives to each other knowing I want to leave him and be on my own. I want him to be in both my children’s lives and for us to stay on good (enough) terms but I don’t know how to go about that, any advice ?

Is there a trick to eating your food without your toddler trying to steal it?

I swear, I’d enjoy hanging out with my toddler more if I wasn’t always starving and waiting for her to have a nap before I can eat in peace 😅 obviously it’d be ideal if I made a lunch we could share, but sometimes life doesn’t go that way! For example, today I had leftover fajitas with spicy wraps. I couldn’t even give her a wrap with some guacamole because the wraps had chili in them. I ended up crouching behind the kitchen counter and shoving one in my mouth so I could cope with the next hour before naptime 😆

Is there an easier way, or is this just my life now?

Advice and help

I’m a first time mam to a set of twins and they have just turned 7 months and I’m thinking of introducing solids and not just pouches and blended food. I need some advice on where to start as I’m not sure how to go about it. I’m so scared of them choking that’s what’s put me off a little. Some Meal ideas would be brilliant