Is this normal ?

Mil only buys toys for her house only ???

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Maybe wants to keep kids occupied at her place (if she babysits them) if not then I don’t see why can’t kids take the toys home with them? Maybe she wants to create a fun environment at her home only so kids prefer her house all the time.

Depends how long/much time they spend there?!

My grandma (dad's mom) was like this when I was growing up. My parents were divorced so I would spend every other weekend at my grandma's house (when dad wasn't in the picture). And whatever she bought me had to stay at her house (clothes, toys, everything). Don't know why she did it but just wanted you to know your MIL isn't the only one.

She doesn’t baby sit and barely sees my daughter for about 2 hours every two weeks

I understand having toys at her house for her to play my mom has some to but she doesn’t gift her any toys for holidays or birthdays anymore she’s only buying her toys for her house

My MIL used to bring toys over to my house to play with whilst she was here and then took them away with her again 🤷🏻‍♀️. I bought the same toys for here. Soon stopped it.

I think that tbh knowing how she is

what in the world is wrong w her

My mom lives 2000 miles away and has toys that stay at her house. She has bought toys before visits so we don’t have to bring toys. She has allowed my toddler to take one or two if she was really into it or if she buys toys while we are there she will let them take them if they want. She’s really chill about all of it but also tries to keep some there so it’s easy for us and exiting to see what toys grandma has.
On the flip side, we used to live 10 min from MIL (now we are currently staying with them) but she was stupid strict about toys staying at her house. Oh the toddler was upset about saying goodbye to a toy? “Sorry, tell mama you want to visit again soon.” (We were over at least twice a week.) I brought over some bath toys once and she like claimed them as toys that had to stay? Idk. She also wouldn’t let us take blankets or burp clothes that were “hers”. It was frustrating because with her it felt more like a power move.

Honestly my MIL bought some stuff not to my taste and I’m happy it lives at her house, but she always offers us the choice to take it home or keep it at hers. She lives next door though.

Girl my mil is like that she sayd those toys are my daughters but yet if she wants to take one she can’t Cz those are for her house only ! Like what is it with the obsession those toys are for her then to fill a weird ass obsession or soemthing

I’m sure with mine it’s about the power move liek you are saying sounds about right

My mum would store my old toys or a few charity shop toys she’d picked up. One year she did buy a fire station for my son just to keep at hers…luckily he wasn’t that bothered but stuff like that I find irritating.

that’s great ! But mine dosent offer that she jsut picks and wants to have all these toys at her house but won’t gifts any toys to my 2 year old for our house for her bday etc

I kind of get it, because of toy rotation the child will never get that bored with those toys since she rarely sees them, but not gifting the child any toys for holidays or birthdays or Christmas that's really really weird, it's kind of like she just wants to have all the shine and be like Grandma's house is awesome because she has all these toys and not really letting you have that experience as well at your house

me and her don’t get along so I don’t go to the visits only my husband with our child

So now would y’all recommend saying anything to her about or asking her why she isn’t gifting toys for her to bring home ? Or just ignoring it ?

wow I’m really sorry you had to go through that! It’s like just let my kid have a breakdown rather than just giving him the damn toy🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️makes no sense!!

she actually is the one that copied all the toys we have at our house for hers

true anytime I have told her anything it’s not a positive interaction 🤣

so strange isn’t it

Do you have the relationship with her that she'd actually listen and try to understand your perspective on this?
I'm thinking maybe just ignoring it is the best idea.
Because what is she gonna say? Where will the conversation go? I'm trying to imagine the outcome of calling it out.

"Well the kids should come here to play with the toys if they want them?" "I want them to have something to play with at my house" but like, you aren't even gifting them toys on occasions like birthdays.... "if its an issue, then maybe you should bring the kids here to play"
I feel like she'd just say that the kids need to be at her house if they want to play. Because she's grandma...

It's annoying and by the sounds of it, its not innocent. hopefully kids will forget about that toy they loved at grandma's and just enjoy what they have at home and other gifts that people actually give them. Or you can copy the gifts lol I'd be so annoyed

I understand keeping things at grandma's home so you don't have to take toys over whenever you visit. Both my mom and mil have things ready. But those weren't meant to be gifts

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I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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