Help!!

There’s nothing wrong with how you’re feeling. Hormones are still super out of wack even a year after having a baby. It sounds like you need to have an honest conversation with your partner though. He needs to understand how you’re feeling and you can work together towards a solution. You shouldn’t just do it for his sake. Maybe even couples therapy can help.

As soon as I address anything with him he shuts down and makes out I’m trying to start an argument or attention seek etc, he has really bad communication problems he takes everything as a personal attack, if I told him he does not turn me on it would really hurt his feeling as it would mine if he said it to me, feel so stuck it’s like I would be happy to be with him forever and just not have sex

He’s really good in bed Aswell and that’s why I’m so confused x

I would really suggest a therapist. It sounds like he has things he needs to work through so that y’all can get through this.

But I just find myself wanting to have sex with loads of other men is this normal I would never act on it but I have dreams and I imagine it I feel so guilty about it

Cause you're in survival momma mode. I was the same way for almost a year

Okay this may sound crazy but there are studies on this. Your hormones are probably what’s making him not attractive to you. Your sex drive is not in the gutter because you fantasize about other men. We (women) are emotional creatures. If someone isn’t satisfying us in that department, the girls don’t get excited 😆