Traveling

When should you stop traveling?
So my best friend is getting married in November so I’ve already told her I cant go because I’ll have a NB and don’t want to go all the way to Hawaii with her.

But she was venting about how her friend is being flakey about planning her bachelorette party so I was like I can probably help plan it if you do it in the next two weeks and you have it in Scottsdale (which is an hour flight from where I live) she said she could. But now I’m getting nervous I’m biting off a little more than I can chew. I definitely do not want to go into labor in AZ! And I know it’ll be exhausting but I feel bad that no one is planning anything for her, especially when she did so much for my own bachelorette party!

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How many weeks will you be? I don't think you're really supposed to be on a plane quite so late in pregnancy. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable traveling more than an hour or two tops, by car, in the last month. Have you spoken to your OB? Could you lead the planning and not go?

Yeah I was thinking of that. Leading the planning and not going might be the best option. I’ll be 35 going on 36 weeks 😬

My doctor recommended that I shouldn’t travel anywhere after 34 weeks, I’d be worried to travel at 35-36. Maybe virtual planning would be best :)

For me, there was an insurance thing where after 36 weeks, if I don’t have my baby at my one specific hospital, insurance won’t cover it. So, I cancelled a road trip that was 4h away because I was worried my second baby might come quickly and I wouldn’t make it. But it sounds like you’d be outside that window!

I live in Scottsdale and it’s going to be very hot until around Halloween. That’s usually when it starts to cool down a bit here. Todays nice, like 96 (because of monsoons) but it’s been about 115 lately and probably will stay in the triple digits for a while.
If you guys are planning on going out to old town, that’s probably going to be very difficult for a pregnant woman also. It’s overpopulated with drunk people. I don’t even drive that way when I am not pregnant - I am a bit older though.
What kind of things would you plan on doing here? I’d stick to indoor activities or just chill at an air bnb or hotel with a pool.
Another option could be helping her plan a trip here and just not accompany her and the other girls?
Don’t get me wrong, I love love Arizona, but it’s hard here in the summer when you’re pregnant, and our summers lasts until October-November ;)

My doctor told me no later than 34 weeks.

most (if not all) airlines will not let you fly after 36 weeks. do with that info what you will.

I wouldn’t go anywhere at this point (I’m 34 weeks) 😅 Would it be crazy to do a postponed bachelorette trip in the Spring?

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