Marriage over ?

Is he right on what he’s saying? Are you guys trying to work through the issues you’ve been having? Just from the post, I wouldn’t say the marriage is over. Reach out to a counsellor to help you guys through this difficult time

Going through something very similar 😔 I’m here if u wanna talk

I'm sorry to say, but most likely. He has openly told you he feels he isn't treating you right and won't change.

In saying that, could he be suffering from a mental illness?

I’d need more context as to why he said it. If you are constantly asking him to change without appreciating anything about who he is, then why would you want to be with him? I’m not saying either of you is bad. A relationship is built on two people who appreciate each others flaws and gifts without wanting them to completely change their entire personality. There are compromises to be sure and having babies is really hard on a relationship, if your baby is young y’all need to take a break from criticism and maybe have nights where you just exist together without much conversation. I don’t think it’s over, it takes a lot of pain for a man to say he must not be doing it right.

to give more context we have been married 3 years together for 4 years and we have two kids . He has had a history of cheating or talking to other girls throughout our relationship and I have accepted him back because of changes he has made . This time around he went behind my back to talk to someone and was going to meet up with them but things changed and he begged me to give him a chance becuase he was going to try his best to make me happy and now he is saying this . I have always told him I am all in no matter the up and downs and I am positive I am dumb for saying this but I have always been by his side giving him any chances but he is now not wanting to put in any effort but still doesn’t want to separate or get a divorce.

No matter what the circumstances are . when a man says this it’s time to move on because more than likely he already has . It’s mostly definitely over. Life is too short to be with someone whom is saying they’re incapable of showing love to you. You don’t deserve to live in misery. Ask him to move out. Since I’m sure the kiddos will live with you primarily. Don’t look back idc if he comes running back. Cry , get you a bottle of wine and have your mourn time. It will be ok after-while…I’m sorry you are going through this.

I think it is unless he’s willing to work on it through therapy or something. But when someone tells you they’re not capable of showing you the kind of love you’re looking for that means he’s low key already out of the door

Just accept it and move on, instead of suffering if you are able to

men are just ….. he will get what’s coming to him

they really are!