Is anyone else really struggling mentally?

I’ve got to 36weeks and hit a massive wall mentally. I’m super stressed about the birth. I don’t want to be pregnant. I’m in so much pain, uncomfortable, exhausted, isolating myself for everyone & just miserable. Don’t get me wrong I’m super grateful my baby is healthy but I really just want him to be born now: the thought of being pregnant for another 4/6weeks is really depressing me and really can’t see an end. I still have another 3 weeks till I see the midwife again and everything’s just dragging.

I’ve been drinking raspberry tea leaf tea since 32weeks and I know this doesn’t help induce labour but does anyone have any suggestions to try and get things moving along? I know everyone talks about sex to help induce labour a lot but I have thrush so that’s off the table for at least another week whilst I finish treatment for that. I’ll literally try anything at this point. I haven’t slept in weeks due to constantly needing a pee every single time I lie down, I get relief from this during the day thank god but I’m so over tired that I can’t even manage a nap during the day. I’m just in this cycle, a few weeks ago I was super excited about everything and now it’s just switched from no where and I don’t know how to bounce back.😩😭

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Totally understand your feelings. 38 weeks now and got the same since around weeks 35/36. Impossible to sleep. Annoying random pains, frequent urination and constant hunger. Not to mention anxiety. I don’t know how to get out of the circle either, but I feel like reading/educating yourself helps. I started to read a lot from all official sources like RCOG etc about child birth and all the aspects. Reading a book about newborns as well and how to take care of them. This really helped me and somehow made me feel more in control and a tiny bit less anxious. Of course also important to move, even at home and est healthier. We have got this xx

Hey lovely, do some research but I'm sure I read nipple stimulation can help (obviously you said you can't have sex for a week)
Lots of walking (which is easier said than done, I'm 37w and can't even walk my dog anymore from struggling 😞)

Speak to your mid wife hun if your
Mental health is suffering there’s people in place to talk too x

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