Baby only wanting mum

Hi! We are in a bit of a problem. Since my partner went back to work I have spent the most time with our son and he is also EBF. Now if my partner is with him on his own our son cries non stop and as soon as I enter the room or hold him he's fine.. which is understandably so quite frudtrating for my partner. Has anyone else experienced anything similar?

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Yes around the 12 week mark, we just kept at it and I would be In the same room but only take over if baby was really upset. I would hold baby and face them towards dad for them to interact but they still had the comfort of mum cuddles. Baby would only let me get them to sleep for around 3 weeks as well it was exhausting. Now dad is the clear favourite at 16 weeks xx

Yes 😓 It was especially bad a couple of weeks ago, but actually has seemed a bit better the last couple of days. It has been really tough - I used to be able to leave baby girl with her daddy while I had a shower and got ready on the weekends, but that had to stop that as she’d just get so distressed 😩 Was meant to go to the hairdressers this week but just wasn’t brave enough to leave her 😓 I know we’ll get there, so just being patient and not forcing it ❤️ Some babies are just like this xx

Yeah I get this. 😭

Yeah, pretty normal really. My bf spoke to the HV about it when she came & she told him to suck it up 😂😂😂 and that it would likely be like this for some time.

Yes we have had this on and off since my partner went back to work, 13 weeks ago! He’s the favourite in the mornings and he’ll take her out and feed her no problem, but the evenings are so hard, she only wants me. I know this is normal and it will pass but it’s so tough for everyone 😣

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Someone has been pushing her wing mirrors in, obviously in protest. Her car is older, and the wing mirror has been broken twice by doing this.

See my doodle. The guy doing this lives at the house at the top of the road’s turning circle. He walks the path of the purple line across the turning circle to do it to the car.

The road is not a busy road at all, it’s a short culdesac/dead end road. The pavement by my driveway is blocked by a bush and a lamppost (drawn in my pic lol), and any pedestrians would need to go on the road anyway to get past, even if her car wasn’t there. There are no obstructions on the pavement on the other side of the road.

Do you think what he is doing is fair??

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She’s breastfed but will take expressed milk from a bottle (as long as it’s not from me). When I picked her up, she was absolutely screaming—she’d clearly been crying for a while. Her hair was damp with tears, her eyes were red, and she was so upset. She’d refused her bottle, even though the staff member trying to feed her was a breastfeeding mam herself, and she’d just woken up from a nap too.

She’ll only be going once a week, as my mother-in-law will have her on the other day I’m working. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m being cruel… I just don’t know if she’s going to settle. Once she gets really worked up, she’ll only calm down with someone she knows, and it took me a good 10 minutes to soothe her after I picked her up.

My mother-in-law has offered to have her both days, and I’ve said I’ll consider it if she doesn’t settle at nursery after a month—especially since my little one absolutely loves being with her.

But I keep questioning myself… am I making the right decision sending her to nursery at all? 🤍

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Are we just staying in bed for 12 hours a night?

Right now I’m going to bed when my baby does at 8pm and staying there until his morning wake usually around 7. Does anyone else do this? He sleeps on top of me and usually wakes up and just crawls back on me when I try to put him down. What are your tips for sneaking away?