Kids attending Funerals???

My dad passed away yesterday. We saw him every week. My girls constantly asked to FT papa. Do they go or would that damage them more??

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I would let them go if they have the connection enough that they are wanting to talk to him and miss him I think personally I would give them the chance to say goodbye

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My son went to both of my parents’ funerals. My daughter went to my dad’s (I was still pregnant with her when I lost my mom.) I had never considered not letting them go.

Best wishes in whatever you choose. May your dad RIP. 🤍🙏🏽🕊️

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Depending on their age and understanding of death. We lost my step mom last year, and my twins reacted very differently. One wanted to see her body at the funeral and sit up front. The other wanted to go but sit in the back. I did let them see her at the wake and the sat with other family in the back. They ask about her and talk about how they miss her. If your children are able to understand death is final and your dad is no longer in pain, let the go. Just remember to talk to them and be honest. Best wishes. Losing a parent is never easy.

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