Advice am I being overprotective mother?

My daughter stayed with her dad and his partner last night.He had to go to hospital with high blood pressure so my daughter stayed with his partner.My daughter was understandably upset and she said she's been told by my ex partners girlfriend"stop crying you are almost 7 year old"...correct me if I m wrong but I would have thought she should give her little reinsurance in those circumstances? She was probably worried about her dad.. and she's teaching assistant at primary school...

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I would genuinely have a word with her directly or even just send her a text, I wouldn’t even ask her why she said that I would just remind her of your daughters age, the circumstances that it was in and how you don’t appreciate it in the slightest and would appreciate it if next time she’s in that emotional state to just remember to validate her feelings!! I cannot stand people belittling children when they are upset! My son is 3 and his dad has made comments before of “ stop crying, are you a baby? “ like yeah he is actually byeeee🙂✌🏼 lol!!

@Paige thanks hun..I do think she's oversensitive at times but it's just how she is..I m so surprised she works at school with children her age..all she needed is a cuddle...ahhh

I totally get that! My son is an extremely sensitive little boy and they just need that little bit of extra reassurance 🥹

It doesn’t matter if your daughter is over sensitive she’s a child & if dads partner is in her life she should treat her with care & compassion

When I was younger and went to my dads I would always have anxiety and miss my mom. I was also never left alone with step mom. If dad had something to do, I was back with my mother. Maybe ask your daughter how she feels about that. Would she have preferred to come back to your house in that instance if possible?

As far as step mom goes I would have a conversation with her. I’d be really nice about it and hopefully make her feel dumb about how she acted. I’m sure she was stressed out too, but an adults stress is never something to project on a child.

At Hannah I ve tried she was just shouting at me saying that My daughter is too gigly at night and she s not a baby anymore...no point talking to her.shes not going there anymore.

Oh my gosh. That’s terrible. 😐 I definitely wouldn’t let her go around her anymore either.
Have you talked to her dad and gotten his opinion? Hopefully he’d stand up for his kid…. Smh some people are terrible.

At Hannah he left it to me I had to block her number.He said "are you sure she ve got that right? And then he said OK she doesn't need go come here anymore.

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Partner works incredibly long hours, how much do they help out?

I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
On the weekends he was doing 6 days, one weekend day off, but now has both off.

He doesn't sit on the floor and play with her, he doesn't read to her because he says she doesn't have the patience.
He will pick her up and hold her whilst he's cooking.

Recently I've been "snappy" with him.
He got back from the mechanic last weekend, she was getting onto the sofa and he put his headphones on and started to watch Netflix on his phone.
The same day I told him I was going to run her bath and to watch her whilst she was still eating, he fell asleep on the sofa.

Today he went to football after going shopping, so was out 1-3 and then from 4-8.
He got back and I was snappy.

"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

I said - Probably because I haven't had a break since December.

"Do you think I don't know you haven't had a break. I haven't had a break", "I just won't go to work, I'll sit at home all day".

Then "do you think I like not having a connection to my child"... But that's on him? He never sits to play with her. He "doesn't see the point". He's stated that this age is boring to him.

Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

Are these not breaks?

He does do the washing/washing up/cooking/vacuuming when I haven't had a chance to; but I'm the one in charge of feeding her, naps/bedtime, teeth brushing, hair brushing, baths, dressing her, making sure she has the right shoes, appointments etc. Everything falls on me.

If your partner works ridiculously long hours, how much do they look after your child? Do you ever get a break?

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