Feeling like a bad mum…

I messed up really bad this morning and the guilt hasn’t gone away. She usually wakes around 7/7.30 and I was so tired. I went to bed way past 2am from cooking so I forgot to set an alarm. My boyfriend had gone out and didn’t come back until 5am so was also exhausted. We both didn’t wake up at all until 10am. She was already up at 7.40am and didn’t make a peep. She was absolutely fine and as happy as anything. Luckily she went back to sleep until 9.30 but she would have had her milk and breakfast by then. I feel awful…

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How do you know she was awake between 7.40am and 9.30am?

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thank you! I wasn’t even really looking for sympathy but I’m somewhat relieved I’m not alone here 🥺 x

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we have a smart camera that allows video playback with time stamps. It also tells us exactly when she’s woken up or when she’s gone to sleep. So when we woke up, we could see she woke up at 7.40 and then when she went back to sleep, woke up again etc.

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Now that makes sense 😅 I was wondering how you’d know if asleep. I thought maybe there was another adult in the house and then wondering why you were upset as that meant she was safe and looked after. 🙈
It is quite impressive that she didn’t cry or make a sound and wake you both, I don’t know many babies that would do that. Well aside from those that have been sleep trained - but that is a different worry and issue 🥴

You saw on the camera she was happy and safe, so no guilt necessary. But I often get Mum guilt 🥴

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