Am I in the wrong

You’re not in the wrong, you asked three times. How old are your kids? Surely he should be jumping for joy that there will be one more adult there to help with the children?
I understand that it would be nice to have a holiday just the 5 of you, but by the same token he had 3 opportunities to tell you that before you booked it. If he doesn’t want to go anymore I would just go with your mum

U asked him and he said he was OK with it. End of. If he felt that strongly he should've said something then. I'd go ahead with the holiday and take ur mum and if he doesn't want to go then he can miss out and sulk at home like a baby

He said he wasn’t thinking he was just agreeing with what I was saying he didn’t think it through he said I should have known what the answer was as we’ve been together for 10 years I should have known his thoughts I did tell him I’m not a mind reader I’m organising this all myself my kids are 9, 6 and 4 when we are over there it’s my eldest birthday he’ll be 10

You did a nice thing for your mum. Don’t waste time regretting this. She will always think of this , what you did for her and your husband will get over it x

Once he’s there I don’t think he’d care anymore

Something similar happened to me with my 1 year old but it was great having an extra pair of hands to help out with my son and she had him for a few evenings so me and my husband could go for date nights and he realised how helpful it actually was having her so maybe that realisation after the holiday? Also could you arrange things so you aren't with your mum 24/7? That deffo made my husband a lot happier 😅also if it's booked now and it's mainly for the kids that's what should be considered tbh x

I’m hoping that once he’s there he’ll be ok I have booked the marvel hotel I have spent a packet on this holiday as it’s Christmas present for all my kids and birthday combined for my eldest son turning 10 I don’t plan on being with her 24/7 she’ll end up being with my daughter most of the time she’s 4 I did bring my mum for the extra help and she has already offered to watch the kids so me and my partner can go out one night ourselves. In 2021 we did go to a caravan holiday for a week with his family it wasn’t the best and he ended up sulking half of the time and being moody which is why I’m nervous this time in case he does that again

You have 3 kids of very different ages, they are not going to want to do the same things all of the time, so having and adult each will be a godsend. Having an extra person also means, if the 5 of you all want to go on a ride together then your mum can look after your stuff. She can have the kids in the evening so the 2 of you can go out. There's so many reasons why it's a good idea, just point some of them out to him and hopefully he'll come round. It's not fair to uninvite your mum now that she is excited for it. He needs to think about what he's saying before he says it

He’s being childish. He was asked and he said he was ok with it. To turn around and sulk now because you should have psychically known he didn’t mean what he said is ridiculous.

You’re not in the wrong, you gave him 3 opportunities to be honest with you and he wasn’t. Like you say you’re not a mind reader. If he does decide not to go then he’ll miss out on a lovely family holiday and some quality time with his children.

We love extended family holidays!!!! We've been abroad twice with our 2 year old and she's loved having her grandparents there and aunties!!! It's lush! He'll love it when you're all there!!! X

From experience you always have better holidays with your mum than hubby (if kids are going) 😂 I end up having to look after both the kids majority of the time if it’s just me and hubby.