partners loosing there spark

so me and my partner have a 5 month old. we were only together 4 months before we fell pregnant. we had to quickly get a flat a few months before he was born as had no where to live. anyway since he’s been born the first few months was lovely. only recently we’ve started having problems, he works 5 days a week i’m still at home. i have no mum friends so he is my only friend really. I’m currently suffering with postpartum depression and i think he is too. We haven’t done the deed in about 3-4 weeks where it used to be atleast once a week. I’m writing this really to see if anyone else lost the spark with there partner and managed to get through it. We’re trying our hardest to get past this but at the moment it doesn’t seem like there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. also we have no family around us to have little one so we can go out. only around once a month we have family down.

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Yeah I think it's pretty normal for new parents tbh! Lot of other things going on and taking priority. Tiredness etc. Hope you're both getting help with your mental health x

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