Chaos

Honestly? We pay my brother as a cleaner (he has a home and garden business) once a week for the actual cleaning. My partner does laundry/dishes/bins. We go 50/50 on cooking. I do the dog walks and most babycare stuff, partner will join in for things and take care of him if I need to leave the house or take a bath etc. He works full time, I'm on maternity leave, baby is 4.5 months and I have a 9 year old too.

Tbh, we don't have massively high cleanliness standards either. So long as it jist looks neat and tidy I feel much better! We have plenty storage units & boxes, all labelled clearly but not visible from the outside, helps with the illusion!

I just white knuckled it until my baby was weaned. My Dr said I could do a low dose of Ritalin while bf, but I didn't like how it made me feel so I just went back to one cup of coffee and the occasional mental breakdown.

I would suggest trying to do a routine for yourself. I know it's easiest for me to not have as many executive function problems when it's just what happens when x happens. You can also listen to podcasts or music to help you not think about not wanting to do something. Hitting play while on the couch starts the task of doing the dishes without a lot of initial effort. Then do the tasks when you know baby probably won't need you. Start mat time when you start the dishes for example. Then if they are fussy and need to be picked up wear them to finish the task. Some tasks you could start with wearing. Say vacuuming since you're moving around the house anyway. If the baby needs to be held and walked to sleep anyway. Just strap them in when you want to start winding them down. Baby might like it and go down to sleep that way. Especially if you start before they are over tried.