Pelvic pressure

So baby is breech but engaged (confirmed by midwife and by scan)
I have been having tightenings for days lastnight they were every hour, woke up and they're back again.

But today I have this extreme pelvic pressure, I can't even lay on my side as my pelvis is in agony and feels like I can't put my legs together this is with back pain and cramps too.. any advice please as im in hell of alot of pain😥

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I just turned 37 weeks yesterday and have woke up with the same pressure to the point I can’t really sit or stand up straight!

@Naomi I'm 38+4 and I'm exactly the same, laid on my side with 2 pillows between my legs as otherwise I can't lay down😔

Wonder if it’s a sign 🤞

Sorry that you are feeling so uncomfortable!! 🧡
Are the tightenings painful or more like braxton hicks? Have you had any other signs like waters or plug?
Are you planning on vaginal breech birth or c section?
It's possible baby has turned - can you still feel head up near your ribs and low down kicks or does it feel different than before? Sorry for all the questions, my baby is also breech so just trying to prepare for any scenario 🧡🧡

@Zoe I've had painful braxton hicks all the way through this trimester really.. so hard to tell what's going on! No other signs just yet, the signs change every day I guess🤯
We've got a section booked for a week today but will try a breech birth if she comes before.
Kicks are still at my left side where babies feet are, head is definitely up top too, they confirmed it in a scan yesterday too, she's just too comfy in there!
How many weeks are you? Hopefully your little one will turn for you💕

@Naomi I'm hoping so but she's so stubborn I think she's stay in there for 9 more months if she had the choice 😂

I'm in a very very similar situation to you! Baby has been breech the whole time despite me trying EVERYTHING to get them to turn 🙈 after a failed ECV last week, we have an elective c section booked for next week on Wednesday 13th..
I'd love if they turned as I was looking forward to a waterbirth in MLU before 😭
I am 38 weeks+3 today and at midwife appt yesterday she just wrote 2/5 engaged but not sure how accurate that is because she didn't feel anything (only the student did)... I'm not feeling pressure low down at all - only getting the super painful kicks low down every now and then and lots of pain in my left groin which is where baby's feet are 🙈🤣

@Zoe ah we've tried absolutely everything too, spinning babies, hot and cold, music, nothing at all will budge her! We've had 2 unsuccessful ECV's so booked the section for next week too on Thursday and I'm absolutely shitting them to put it nicely haha! We'd planned a waterbirth at the midwife unit too, done all our visits and classes there and now it's all out the window😔
At the ECV last week she was 3/5 engaged, and then yesterday they said at the scan she was so low they couldn't see below her bladder as she's right down in my pelvis.. which explains the pressure but today I can't even do anything tidy as it feels like I've got a weight pushing right down on my bits🤦‍♀️
Our baby has her bum down, spine to the right and then all the legs and arms to the left and up against my ribs, little devil already she is for sure, hoping it means she's good when she's out😂😂

Aw yes I know what you are going through then with the trying everything and having to get my head around the thought of c section 🙈
Mine is also spine to the right and feet on the left - they are just so so comfy like that, I can tell they are happy though (i am saying they because we dont know the gender) 😍 ..

If I was you I would call MAU for some advice - I was told with baby being breech, to phone at ANY sign of labour (rather than the usual trying to stay at home breathing through til 4cm dilated) - just in case they need to prep for c section ... your tightenings and pain could definitely be a sign of labour..
I really wish you all the best and if you want to message at all please do as we may end up with similar birthing stories 🧡🧡

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