I just want to leave

I just want to leave

I (23f) just want to take my 3 month old baby daughter to my familys and away from my husband (36m) and his son (6m).
My husband just threw the responsibility of caring for his son so quickly into our marraige..i barely met the guy a year ago we arent even a year married...i know im stupid..but im just at this point where im on maternity leave but im neglecting my baby girl for his kid and his family..im neglecting myself and not enjoying my maternity leave..im paying for the majority of the rent while hes going to work for what? I paid for and worked on all his sons school stuff/birthday stuff no help..and i just can't handle my stepson anymore..he has adhd among other behavioral problems that i no longer want to be responsible for. I dont know what tf to do..because i cant just leave all of a sudden whos gunna take care of all his shit that he threw on me? Cause he has work..
And if i start caring about my mental health first and trying to set boundaries its nkt only a problem to him, but his stepkid, and my mil. Somehow this 36 year old man and his 65 year old mom are throwing all these responsibilities at me and his mom dead ass yells and throws these bitch fits if its not done the way she wants.. but she cant do shit because she cant walk...
I just cant do this anymore..and i talked to my husband about leaving and about everything..and like im still fucking here resenting him..neglecting my baby girl and myself in the process of helping his family

My baby girl dont even have socks for herself that fit her but oh i have to buy her brother all this shit and hes 6 but hes not even grateful...
He hits, he screams he does not care that a baby is fragile will scream that he wants to hold her and pull on her arm or leg to take her from me while im hding her..hes tried to pick her up while im not there and will throw his slime or ballons or play doh on her face and stick his fingers in his mouth..hes even gone as far as showing me that hes scratching his butt and go to touch her face ON PURPOSE!
I will try to breastfeed on the bed in private and he will run in and jump on the bed and scream and kick me..and no matter how many times i tell and yell and try to get him to stop he will laugh in my face and continue to do it.

Its just something thats continuing oh and if i take the switch away or something he will just cry and cry and im the bad guy and being too harsh
Okay so i should just let him hurt and kill the baby..?
Sorry my fault..
I just cant fucking do this anymore and i knkw if i just leave too they are all going to say how j destroyed stepsons and husbands life or whatever but i just cant fucking deal with their bullshit anymore. Its months and months of me while pregnant and postpartum dealing with this shit being vocal about. HIS DAD FUCKING WATCHES THIS SHIT HAPPEN.
Oh but god forbid he actually gets disciplined good, because apparently I have to be in charge of that too..
I signed up for my husband continuing to be a parent to his son, not for him to throw all thks responsibility on me. Everything.
So now idk what to fucking do. Please help

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This is horrible…
If you can talk openly with your parents/family, do it… Take your baby and take her away from all of this mess

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I’d honestly leave. It’s not your responsibility to be a parent to his son. Your going to look back at this time and regret everything. I’d be saying to the MIL you can come and look after him then if you want it to be perfect

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